What to do if there is no peace of mind. How to restore peace of mind? Why do some people find peace of mind while others don’t?
Calm, only calm... But how to remain calm if everything is bubbling inside, unspoken words, accumulated tension and is about to spill over onto your immediate environment? Common situation? But everyone wants to remain confident, calm and in control of their own behavior - this is strength, this is self-satisfaction, this is the health of the body and strong nerves.
What can you do to relieve tension and not feel like a barrel of gunpowder that needs too much spark? Let's consider common recommendations and techniques that will provide the basis for creating a calm internal atmosphere.
A mood for regularity and peace of mind
The first thing that comes to mind is relaxation, meditation and prayer for those who have faith in their souls. Relaxing, regular practice helps restore peace of mind and inner harmony in a short time. And here the main mistake occurs: a person satisfied with the result of meditating techniques stops practicing, and everything returns to normal. The same nervousness and the same anxiety in a matter of days drags the soul and body into heavy chains.
Each person chooses a method of relaxation that suits him, performing a kind of ritual:
believers read prayers, fingering their rosary;
sports people run on skis in winter, and in parks, sand or mountain paths in summer;
a walk before bed or watching the dawn, communicating with animals, plant growing, fishing or hunting;
handicrafts, playing musical instruments, creativity;
They give you the opportunity to feel yourself, hear yourself, find a state of harmony within yourself and your place in the world around you.
The main rule: the method of relaxation is individual, and the habit of giving yourself rest should be as daily as brushing your teeth or walking the dog - by the way, walking the dog is also an option.
What is the principle of calm?
The balance of a person’s soul, health and thoughts is the basis of his peace. Emotions not included in this list can shake any “cool” head. However, this does not mean at all that you need to be a cracker or a rusty nail, in which there is not a shadow of life left - emotions of any sign, both positive and negative, decorate life, making it brighter, more interesting, more exciting. The question is how expensive are emotions for a particular person: did you feel the situation and let it go, or does it continue to be feverish for a day, two, a week? Thoughts in the head are spinning and spinning, not allowing you to think about anything else, insomnia and fatigue, increasing psychosis - these are the signs.
Maintaining balance is not easy, but it is possible. We offer several rules on how not to succumb to the provocations of the outside world and remain true to yourself, maintaining an internal source of confidence:
Calmness is not synonymous with drowsiness! Drowsiness is apathy and reluctance to act, which over time threatens to develop into detachment from life’s problems that have nothing to do with a person’s inner harmony.
In a state of nervousness, concentrate on the ability to see the situation or life picture as a whole, without detailing - this will allow you not to get scattered and not dwell on unpleasant little things that pull the balance towards yourself.
3. Don’t expect peace from the outside: the world around us is dynamic and does not stand still for a single second - it’s ridiculous to expect any kind of stability from it. Life presents different surprises: it’s good if they turn out to be exciting but pleasant, but what if the surprise is not so good? We inhaled, exhaled and told ourselves: “I can handle this!” - of course you can handle it! at least simply because circumstances sometimes do not provide other options.
4. A rule that people know about but don’t use: look for the positive in everything. Got fired? – more attention to family and a chance to find yourself in a different direction. ? – there is no snoring, no scandals, the house is orderly, quiet and the exceptional pleasure of peace. Are your children doing poorly? - Einstein, who received the Nobel Prize, was kicked out of school altogether. Over time, this habit will strengthen and work automatically: before you have time to think, the positive aspects of what is happening are already right there!
5. People are worried about: their own, loved ones, friends, colleagues... We must learn to take this for granted: life is such that no one will remain in it forever - everyone is mortal, and everyone’s turn will come in due time. Of course, I would like to do it later, but this is what everyone is born with – it doesn’t hurt to be a bit of a fatalist with faith in fate.
6. We should not push events and the people around us: exhaustion from work and the speed of life is the main problem of our age. Exceptional faith in such necessary resistance to everyone and everything can and is impressive - “You are so strong (strong), no circumstances will break you!”, but this does much more harm than good.
Sometimes you need to let go of circumstances: perhaps some other factor or unexpected turn will arise that will radically change the perception of the situation.
A place of peace
This is not about the cemetery - although yes, let's be honest: the most peaceful place on the planet. But while your heart is beating hotly in your chest, it’s worth taking care of a corner of personal privacy. A treasured place where there are no phone calls, no TV with frightening news, no sucking the Internet into its bottomless womb - half an hour on a balcony or on a park bench will help you put your thoughts and feelings in order, and curb your overwhelming emotions.
You shouldn’t ignore your favorite pastime: no matter what happens in this turbulent world, you can devote half an hour to a hobby a day to a hobby. Knitting, embroidery, modeling, modeling, drawing - anything to make you feel comfortable, calm and turn your brain off from existing problems at these moments. The place of study is also important in this case: if the children urgently need help with their homework, the cat needs canned food from the refrigerator, a friend remembered that today you have not yet spent the allotted two hours on the phone, and your husband slams the lids on empty pans - the idea is to spend half an hour in my pleasure failed miserably. Solution? Feed everyone who is hungry, give strict instructions to relatives, and turn off phones - any person has the right to a few personal minutes of doing what they love.
Huge shopping centers are not a place to relax. Bright light, oppressive concrete, glass and crowds of people - there can be no talk of any comfort or privacy. Have you often noticed fatigue after shopping at hypermarkets and shopping in boutiques? - here it is, the body’s signal about a serious loss of vitality. A forest, a river, swimming in a pool, in a nearby park - the healing effects of nature will give you a feeling of an influx of strength and energy, allowing you to fully relax both your soul and body.
Learn to gradually relax and manage your peace of mind, while remembering: you shouldn’t fight life - you need to live and enjoy life!
22 January 2014, 18:15Question for a psychologist:
Hello.
I feel very bad, day and night there is no peace in my soul, I go to church and confess and take communion, and read books, I practically don’t watch films, I’ve never watched horror films. I used to spend a lot of time on social networks because I have no friends here. I limited that too. I often want to cry, it’s as if something is eating my soul inside, the heaviness is incredible, mental pain from which you can’t hide, you want to hide in dark places and bend over there and try to experience this state. I have no appetite, I eat almost nothing. I love drawing and writing stories for as long as I can remember, I truly loved doing it. Now there is no desire at all. All desires for the goals I wanted to achieve have disappeared, I don’t know why I live. My family supports me a little. We used to have disagreements and misunderstandings and quarrels, but now it's a little better. And I know that this nightmare definitely does not come from the family.
I went to a psychiatrist and was told to urgently go to a psychiatric hospital. We read the reviews, they treat patients terribly, do not look after them and treat them carelessly. I’m already vulnerable myself, and in this state it’s possible that everything will end very badly with such treatment.
We found a private clinic, but it costs money and requires a lot of money, which we don’t have. I experienced a severe illness with an all-out crisis, as they told me, with a fever, and then a feeling of anxiety and fear began to layer on until it devoured me. And all this time I tried to still look for work and continue drawing. I can’t work, I came for an internship and felt bad. My parents earn very little, my mother has two loans, we don’t dare turn to paid specialists, and we can’t get free treatment. I take pills that the psychiatrist prescribed, but it seems to me that they make me become a doll or something. Maybe soon I will be gone completely, I don’t see a way out and there’s nowhere to wait for help.
Kartveli psychologist Erika Shalvovna answers the question.
Hello Alice!
Let's figure out the way out that you don't see! And as they rightly said, if you don’t see it, it means you know about its existence! There is a lot of wisdom in your letter; it is clear that you really want to break out of inaction! Since you only went to a psychotherapist for pills, instead of psychotherapeutic assistance, which he should primarily provide, because the pills are taken in conjunction with psychological work, and you wisely refused a psychiatric hospital, then “the salvation of a drowning man is in the hands of the drowning man himself”! You have such potential – this is what I described above!
So you write:
“I feel very bad, day and night there is no peace in my soul, I go to church and confess and take communion, and read books, I practically don’t watch films, I’ve never watched horror films. I used to spend a lot of time on social networks because I have no friends here. I limited that too.”
You are looking for salvation in the outside world. Did not help. This means you need to look for a solution within yourself, then you will find peace in your soul! So do this exercise:
In a calm environment, try to remember situations when you felt the peace in your soul that you so desire. Just write down the words that evoke associations from those minutes, hours, moments! You can do the opposite. Write down the words that come to mind in connection with the task (everything that came to mind without thinking), and then you will write down a story that brings peace and satisfaction!
Is it worth thinking about what happened? Set aside for 1-3 days for now.
“...crying,...something is eating up the soul, an incredible weight, mental pain from which you can’t hide, you want to hide in dark places and bend over there and try to experience this state.”
Close your eyes and imagine this pain as an image (color, shape, feel, smell).
Mental pain means you need to know where the soul is in your body. This is where you place the image of pain. And then just talk to her! Ask what she wants? Maybe you're hungry? Or maybe she wants to be petted and warmed up? Give it to her, at least a little or more. Make friends with her. This game actually helps to turn pain into light, which will lead you to a way out of this situation! Do it gradually, if it is difficult to immediately earn her trust, a little every day!
“I have no appetite, I eat almost nothing.” This is natural in your situation. A way out will appear and your appetite will return accordingly.
“….I love to draw and write stories, as long as I can remember, I sincerely loved to do it. Now there is no desire at all.”
So, you did this for some purpose, which is connected with ambitious dreams? Do you like the process itself? Did your stories and drawings please anyone? What did you bring into the world? Who do you think your creations can help?
“All desires for the goals I wanted to achieve have disappeared, I don’t know why I live.”
Your condition looks like a crisis. You have matured, some of your illusions have been shattered by reality! Especially if your goals are focused on quick recognition and success! That is, again, they were focused on external assessment, material well-being!
And since the world is so cruel, then you punish it with your “dying”. This is what Alice looks like from the outside! You may be a thousand times more gifted than a girl who was born into a wealthy family, but she will create, expressing her individuality, and you will be in pursuit of recognition. And then her work will be more sincere, pure and therefore recognized, paradoxically! You can get recognition by improving your skills, but it takes a long time, and you want recognition now. That's a contradiction! This applies to any activity! Each of us has different starting opportunities. Each is given according to his strength. And honor and praise to you if you can independently decide on your goals and find your way to them. Development and movement are for life! And on this path you sometimes come across quite unexpectedly what you dreamed about in your youth, when you had already forgotten about it! Only for this you need to go, and not hide in a corner!
You write:
“My family supports me a little. We used to have disagreements and misunderstandings and quarrels, but now it's a little better. And I know that this nightmare definitely does not come from the family.”
Your family supports you completely, not just a little Alice! They live in the same world as you! In order to have a roof over their head and at least some food, they need to go to work every day, and judging by what you wrote about income, they clearly don’t like work. And also everyday life! When you jump out of your cocoon, thank them for their patience and support. They themselves need support, since they themselves cannot get out of poverty. Learn something new, more in demand! You can do it, because others could?
You write:
“I went through a severe illness with an all-out crisis, as I was told, with a fever, and then a feeling of anxiety and fear began to layer on until it devoured me. And all this time I tried to still look for work and continue drawing. I can’t work, I came for an internship and felt bad.”
This is a terrible condition that forces a person to accustom himself to physical training (start with “7 minutes of yoga”, there is an application). The main thing is to develop a habit. I can’t through it. Only through effort can you achieve something worthwhile in life! Your first goal is you yourself, Alice! You have youth, living parents, talents! These are your resources.
Do the exercises written above. Return to the first one after some time and write what needs to be done to achieve the goal (harmony in the soul). Just focus first of all on yourself, on your loved ones, and then on those who may share your goals and objectives! Look for like-minded people by goals, and not by “crying together” about the injustice of life!
Think about who you can help at home during your recovery? At least at the everyday level. You wash the dishes and come up with a story. Remember, like in Cinderella: “I learned to sing while listening to a boiling cauldron, and to dance while polishing the floors!” Energy will appear immediately!
“Maybe soon I won’t be at all, I don’t see a way out and there’s nowhere to wait for help.”
Alice, no one knows when we will be completely gone! No one will offer help, and stop waiting for it! But if you, having outlined your goals, ask for it, you will probably receive it!
I will send you an audio exercise by email. Listen to Alice for the night. It will help activate your creative potential in your sleep!
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There was a time when I couldn't sleep for hours. A random incident, an unfortunate event, a conversation that didn’t end the way (as I would have liked) unsettled me for a long time. Obsession in thoughts and constant digestion of what was, reliably sucked my attention and deprived me of vital energy. The next morning I felt not cheerful and well-rested, but mortally tired and overwhelmed.
I realized that I was simply in a negative “emotional cocoon” into which, to be completely honest, I had plunged myself. In the end, no one forced me to experience unpleasant and difficult experiences. I did it myself. Albeit unconsciously.
So I started looking for a way out.
A static system is most vulnerable
The main discovery lay on the surface.
We are not so much slaves to our own preferences and habits as slaves to stability. The older we get, the less we want anything in life to truly change. Especially things haven’t changed the way we want them to. We crave stability and peace. Firmness and immutability. The inviolability of established life orders. So that it always feels good, blissful and curly.
But that doesn't happen.
The world around us does not exist according to the laws that we invent for it. The world around us exists according to the laws of dialectics. And dialectics provides for the constancy and immutability of only one thing - conflicts and contradictions.
Trying to escape from conflicts is an attempt to escape from reality or escapism. Reality will still impose them on you, but not on your field, but on its own field. I learned the hard way what it is to be silent when you need to speak, what it is to push away from problems when you need to solve them, what it is to sit and blink your eyes when you need to act. As a result, sooner or later I lost.
Then I realized that trying to ignore the world around me, being in my illusions, does not lead to peace of mind, but on the contrary, it gives rise to a bunch of situations leading to discomfort.
I had one friend whose constant dream was that everyone would leave him alone. But for some reason it always turned out that someone didn’t care about him anyway. Miracles and that's it.
State of dynamic equilibrium
One of my life teachers was the children's toy “Vanka-Vstanka”. She showed me that there is a state in which no matter how life hits you, no matter how much it pushes you, you will always return to the position you occupy. In other words, you always maintain internal balance, despite continuously occurring changes and external influences.
This state is called dynamic equilibrium.
In practice, this means that nothing, no external event or circumstance can unsettle you and lead you astray from your intended goal. On the contrary, you turn any troubles to your advantage. Have you been harshly criticized? Instead of becoming discouraged, you use the facts you have learned to work intensively on yourself and reach a new level. Got fired? You don’t give up and don’t complain about fate, but remember your forgotten talents and create a profitable business using them.
But all this is simply a consequence of the fact that you adequately perceive reality and react flexibly to it. There are no ineffective rules and limiting frameworks in your head, but a holistic perception of the world and the ability to see what is usually hidden from the gaze of other people.
Development strategy
The path to achieving inner peace and mental balance, that is, a state of dynamic balance, is the path of practice. It's ever increasing degree of personal maturity. And this is exactly what the vast majority of people involved in “self-development” strive to avoid like hell. Because it’s very cool and fun to do something pleasant, comfortable and interesting (for example, meditation or reading books) and consider that you are “developing.”
And it is very unpleasant to look deep into yourself and realize that you and only you are the only reason for the events happening in your life - in business, in relationships, in current circumstances. Realizing this is sometimes very painful and unpleasant. It’s so unpleasant that the cunning and resourceful mind begins to invent various “serious and valid” reasons just to avoid doing real work on oneself. Just so as not to see the true state of things.
The woman's husband left her. Left for someone else. He left because he was partying and because he got bored. These reasons are not hidden. They were lying on the surface. It was enough to look closely and compare some facts and signs to see them. And when you see it, take appropriate measures. But what happened happened. And she can correct/improve the situation only by realizing the processes by virtue of which she found herself in it.
Instead, a woman runs to fortune-tellers, witches, attends women’s trainings, “cleanses karma” and does other easy, pleasant and interesting things. My husband even returns. For a while. But then he gets bored again and goes off into the night again in search of adventure. And this can be repeated for a long time.
Real personal growth cannot be replaced by simulation. No way.
Pull out the root
I persistently searched for the root of anxiety, the source of all and all worries, anxieties and worries. And I couldn’t find it. Until I realized that my current personality (and the overseer controlling it) didn't actually want to look for it. For this root is open, arrogant and shameless lies to oneself. Believe me, deceiving ourselves by creating illusions and simulacra is one of the most favorite pastimes of our limited mind.
Is it possible to stop lying to yourself?
But then you will have to face in full the amount of truth about yourself, about people, about life that you did not want, could not and did not want to see. And after this, it will no longer be possible to live as you were used to before. This is a one way ticket. The choice is serious and not everyone is ready to make it. This is the lot of truly strong people. Or those who want to become one.
After this you will have a completely different life. Outwardly nothing will change. At least right away. But your perception will become as pure as you want. You will see the world completely different, completely different from how you see it now. Are you ready to embark on this exciting and challenging journey? Start by sending requests for free consultation.
I am sure you deserve a better life! Calm, happy and harmonious.
The world is the nature that surrounds us, filled with various elements... But the world is also our Self, We. We shape this World and influence it. The world is our soul, our being. To fully understand his wisdom and become truly happy, we must take time for ourselves and our own subconscious. Therefore, in this article we will talk about how to find harmony within yourself.
How to find harmony?
Let’s make a reservation right away that these methods may not be suitable for everyone. There are many different nuances. The effectiveness of such methods may depend on the following factors:
from your inner world;
from experience, that is, whether you took care of your balance and harmony before, or are just starting to do it now;
whether you are in a compulsive situation in which you need to do something to restore harmony in your soul, for example, between work and health;
on what kind of balance was lost, that is, on how deep the “deviation” you want to restore, what the situation looks like, and what exactly you would like to change;
and, of course, motivation is an important factor.
And it is also important to remember that in such a matter there are no immediate results, you will need to be patient, and this is often the most difficult thing. Many people are looking for some kind of “magic wand” to change the situation with lightning speed, but this does not happen. A person is a complex organism; it is body, soul, mind and heart. And all these parts are closely interconnected. If something happens to one part, it starts a chain reaction that affects all the others.
7 steps to finding harmony in the soul
The very first step that you will need to take to find harmony within yourself, and without which you cannot move on, is calmness.
“In muddy water you won’t see stones at the bottom”
Another important element to consider is integrity. Sometimes, when we lose our balance on a physical level (we fall into apathy, don’t want to move on, lose the desire to do anything at all), this affects all our components: our emotions and soul.
There are four components that make a person human:
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Spirituality.
The physical component, our body;
Mental component, mind;
Only when all these elements function well does a person achieve harmony and balance within himself. To achieve the lost balance, we must act on all levels at the same time.
No. 1: physical
Take care of your body, do something good for yourself. Good fit:
walk in the sun
any movement (jogging, swimming),
and other options.
Sometimes a simple walk will give good results. Some people began to feel better after taking walks and observing nature. But this is not suitable for everyone; some need something more energetic: intense running or martial arts.
By the way, when meditating, you can use: incense sticks. They will create the right atmosphere.
Restoring balance on a physical level can also involve changing your clothing. For example, if you change your wardrobe to clothes made of high-quality material, pleasant to the touch and pleasing to the eye, then this will have a positive effect on our physical component.
In a word, you need to start treating yourself like a little child who you want to take care of and pamper.
No. 2: mind
The best way to take care of your mind is meditation (we have tips for beginners). This is a complex topic that you will have to delve into. It is important to understand how our mind functions, what laws it obeys, and how we can work with it.
It happens that people completely surrender to meditation. They do this from 4 am to 9 pm, in complete silence, without the opportunity to read books, without the opportunity to write, watch films or listen to music. And they achieve zero results.
You need to listen to yourself, conduct some dialogue with your mind. Thanks to such an experience, you can get to know your mind and “tame” it. Because if you don't, he begins to completely control you and makes your ego grow. In such a state it is very difficult to hear intuition and inner voice.
At the very beginning, working with the mind takes a lot of time and requires regularity and persistence, but it shows brilliant results. Very often, there is no harmony in the soul precisely because of problems at this level of a person, so it is important to be able to control and regulate it. This, one might say, is the central control unit of a person. And you need to learn to work with it. The game is definitely worth the candle.
After all, it is the mind that takes us to a past that cannot be changed, or a future that does not yet exist, and thus prevents us from being in the present.
Exercise:
In the morning: Listen to your own breathing for 5 - 15 minutes. Think only about him. Focus carefully on just one part of your body—your nose—and feel the air moving in and out. Your attention should be focused only on this.
Important: Don’t get upset if you get lost, return to observing your breathing again and again.
In the evening: When you are in bed, before you fall asleep, replay the entire day in your head like a movie until the moment you wake up again in the morning.
This exercise will help you learn to control your mind.
Don’t try to do a lot and everything at once; in order to find harmony and balance within yourself, you need to act gradually. Our subconscious must get used to the changes and must not get tired, otherwise we will return to where we started, to old habits.
And yet, it is very important not to force yourself, not to break, not to change your favorite habits. Nothing will come of it, you’ll just ruin your mood, then you’ll have to get up and waste your energy. Habits must be loved. This is akin to how children were previously retrained in schools, forcing left-handed people to write with their right hand. What comes naturally to you should stay with you.
No. 3: emotions
Emotions are an important guide; they let us know what we should pay attention to first. Take a closer look at them. Here, too, there are many methods on how to manage them.
An article almost on the topic: What are mantras? What they are, why they are needed and how they affect a person.
There are positive and negative emotions, but both are important. For example, there is a good old method, it is complex, but very effective. You can call it “only for the brave.”
It's about experiencing negative emotions. Overcome them without any “anesthesia” Do not run away from them. At first it will hurt, a lot. Then this feeling will decrease, and then finally disappear altogether.
Accepting how you feel gives you a sense of inner consistency. For example, if you feel sad, you really feel it, don’t pretend that everything is fine, don’t cover it up with an artificial smile, but don’t push this feeling deep into your soul.
Just accept these emotions without fear that they will cause harm. Pain and sadness are as natural as laughter. You shouldn't run away from them. And this is difficult, because in the modern world we do everything not to feel negative emotions. But don’t tell anyone that finding harmony in the soul is easy.
Sometimes it is worth consciously allowing yourself to experience pain, because it is natural and everything happens for a reason.
Often people pretend that nothing is happening, but deep down they are suffering. They smile and at the same time tremble with fear. This behavior destroys internal balance and harmony, because we lose energy to maintain the external and illusory, we spend it on creating and wearing masks.
It would be much better if you didn't pretend. Being yourself is the easiest way to maintain balance in life. On the other hand, loss of balance is a situation in which it is easiest to recognize yourself and your needs.
No. 4: soul
Perhaps you should start looking for your mission, your passion, your soul's calling. And perhaps it is worth following this inner desire, despite the logical assessment of the mind.
The simple words, “I feel like I’m in heaven,” may well be true. We create both heaven and hell for ourselves. Therefore, it is worth taking care of your own paradise on earth, simply creating it in your life. It is very difficult to do, it takes a long time, but it is definitely possible.
Many people think that this is a luxury, that only very rich people can live like this. But this is far from true. Some of them also put a lot of knowledge, work, perseverance and, of course, passion into building their own paradise. After all, not everything can be measured in monetary terms.
Finding your own calling is a lifelong task. The task is incredibly difficult. But there are some exercises that can help. First you need to ask yourself questions:
- Why do I do what I do?
- Why should I do this?
- What meaning does this make to me?
- What is most important to me?
- What should I focus on in my life?
Write down your answers and set them aside. But keep collecting answers further, again and again. Over time, the truth will begin to emerge.
Sometimes it happens that when we ask ourselves such questions for the first time, we think about the answers for a long time. We thoroughly analyze everything in our heads and only then write it down. With each subsequent time, it takes less and less time to answer, but in the end it turns out that the most important thing was written much later.
And we begin to notice that there is no balance between thoughts and actions. We want one thing, but we do something completely different. And awareness of this is the first step towards harmony within yourself.
Life is a bit like spring cleaning. It lasts much longer than usual putting things in order and requires more effort. However, during it some decisions are made:
what you need to get rid of
what should be removed out of sight so as not to interfere,
All this leads to certain actions, but then everything around becomes cleaner, more comfortable, and it’s easier to breathe.
No. 5: space around
Take care of the space around you.
“what is outside is also inside”
Look at what surrounds you, what things, what decorations and trinkets. Look at them in the context of what events in your life they are associated with, how you feel when you look at these things, what memories come back and what these things bring to your life.
It's time to let go of everything that causes emotions you don't want to feel.
Sometimes some items stop making us happy over time, but we keep them out of habit. It is worthwhile from time to time to carefully analyze what surrounds us, and regularly get rid of what is no longer needed to make room for something new.
No. 6: nature
Connect with nature, look at the sun, feel the wind on your body. Enjoy beautiful plants, flowers, watch the sky.
Time after time you will see more and more beauty around you. And you yourself will be surprised that you didn’t notice all this before.
Communication with nature is an important stage on the path to finding harmony in the soul.
No. 7: Find something you're passionate about.
Look for hobbies, topics that absorb you completely. These are the things that make you incredibly happy, and time flies with them. It could be anything. And it’s especially good if you do this often.
Some people like to cook, some like to read, but there are a lot of options. But sometimes people feel like it's a waste of time. However, this is not true; if we like to do something, we must do it. This is the path to satisfaction and happiness, and therefore to harmony in the soul.
If you don't know what makes you happy, write yourself a list of things you love to do and don't worry about your mind making fun of your ideas. Then spend time on each item on the list. All this has several advantages:
- firstly, this way you will understand which activity is truly your true passion;
- and secondly, it is a way to learn something new about yourself.
Finding harmony within yourself is difficult. You have to try really hard and go for it. But once the balance is restored, you will feel real joy and satisfaction. Go for it!
There is an opinion that in our time it is difficult to be mentally balanced, that every day a person is faced with many problems, questions, obligations, which is why his head is simply spinning.
Few people can calmly react when they are shouted at, humiliated, rude, when a loved one leaves or when money is lost.
But there are such people. Sometimes they are considered abnormal.
How is peace of mind beneficial?
Exactly calm and balanced people they stop the wave of aggression, evil and discontent - and with their calm turn it into adequate communication.
Adequate from the point of view of the Universe, which does not understand our vanity and psychosis.
Mental balance and inner peace, as my experience shows, are also very beneficial for our physical health.
We can get rid of many existing diseases in a non-medicinal way. And we can avoid new ones from appearing.
And how our family and friends rejoice when we become internally calm!
When there is one less unbalanced person in the family)).
The result is more constructive conversations and decisions in the family. And at work too.
How to find peace of mind?
Method number 1. Stop playing and pretending
When we not sincere, pretending And we deceive– It’s difficult to be mentally relaxed. After all, we often deceive even ourselves.
We play some roles: leaving the house, each of us is no longer what we are alone with ourselves, what we are inside ourselves.
We try to smile when we want to cry. We maintain good-natured relationships with colleagues when in fact they annoy us.
All these games and pretending take away mental strength and throw you out of balance.
All you need to do is be yourself!
Yes, it is not an easy job - to learn to be yourself, to stop pretending. However, it is possible.
Stop playing and pretending Method number 2. Do something because you want it, not because others want it.
Mental balance is disturbed when we begin live and act at the direction of other people.
We already don't listen to ourselves, we listen to what other people tell us. And how can we be calm and balanced in such a situation, if even sometimes we don’t understand why we should do what we don’t want to do?
We are used to living in accordance with the desires of the people around us, but we have forgotten about our own. We allow others to manipulate us, we allow them to violate our personal boundaries. And at the same time we lose a lot of energy - because we go against ourselves.
Doing what we want and not doing what others want from us does not mean that we are refusing to help someone. This means that we listen to our Soul and respect ourselves.
Listen to yourself Method No. 3. Know yourself and love yourself
More often communicate with yourself alone to understand the motives of your desires and actions. To understand what you like and what you don’t like. Define your personal boundaries. And don't let others violate them.
Ask yourself questions: “ Why do I need it…?», « Why am I doing this now?"And be sincere with yourself.
Then you will become more confident. Because you understand yourself. You know what motivates you, what you really want. You do not judge yourself, do not criticize, but are calm even about what could previously cause hostility and irritation.
Because it is you, your most beloved person, who has his own advantages and disadvantages.
Know yourself From self-acceptance and peace of mind begins to develop. You don't judge yourself anymore. You just accept yourself with all the qualities that you have.
Even with those that we call “negative”. After all, the Universe does not have “negative” and “positive”. We place the “+” and “-” signs ourselves. The Universe simply has a quality.
When they become a part of your life, then you will notice that you have more of your personal energy and inner strength. And as a result, you will find peace of mind.
