I found out that my wife has a lover. How to find out if your wife has a lover

It is impossible to identify obvious signs of a wife’s betrayal, such as lipstick on the collar, because as soon as a woman has another, the relationship ends, and in some cases, without spiritual betrayal. It is not customary to talk about female infidelity; rather, everyone pretends that such a concept does not exist in principle, so many do not understand how to define a wife’s infidelity. If male infidelity is legalized in society to the point of creating harem-type families and rewarding friends for the next seduced woman, then the very fact of a wife’s infidelity entails a lot of censure, rejection and prohibition. Remember, even for a bachelor party they order prostitutes, and for a bachelorette party strippers, although in fact the goal is the same, but everyone continues to pretend that male infidelity is more common than female infidelity.

Wives also leave on the side, the only difference is in the motivational aspect, and if a man sometimes has enough of a girl’s beautiful appearance, positive communication and a certain dose of alcohol, then a woman needs more serious reasons based on psychological intimacy and the establishment of a spiritual connection. Having a lover or cheating once, a woman does it more in the sphere of feelings, there may even be no intimacy there, but something deeper will be present.

Cheating is a concept that exists between two people in a relationship, and when a woman looks the other way, she leaves an irrelevant relationship to fill the emotional emptiness and feelings of loneliness.

When the obvious fact of the presence of another man becomes clear to you, it will be too late, and you will find out when the two of them come to pick up her things. If you want to maintain a relationship with this particular woman, then you need to look for hints and indirect signs of betrayal, when everything is still in the initial stage and the process can be adjusted. Remember that it is not possible by chance, therefore it cannot be caught stupidly, which means that you need to be more careful in your analysis. Changes in appearance and behavior, the emergence of new interests and habits, get-togethers with friends and delays at work - this is an approximate list of what to pay attention to, and not look for a number signed “Andrey Lover” in her phone.

The first signs of your wife's betrayal

When thinking about how to determine if their wife is cheating, many men skip the stage where it is worth determining that she is becoming uncomfortable at home and around you. Because it is only because of intolerance that a woman feels bad in a real relationship, because of the constant lack (of warmth, respect, attention, words of love) that she begins to look for where to feed her own needs. If you notice that your behavior makes her nervous, she tries to distance herself, and at periodic moments of seeking intimacy she says that your behavior is hard or painful for her, then a crack in the relationship has already begun and will not heal on its own, and you will have to endure it forever no one will do something like this. If she increasingly finds herself doing things outside the home (to escape, she can help your mother, grow whatever she can in the country), then she feels bad at home, and she is looking for something to do with herself. The first signals that will lead to the appearance of another man who wants to take pity on her and add more smiles to her beautiful but sad face.

The first hints of someone appearing on the horizon are the wife’s frequent stories about one of the men (a colleague whom you have known for ten years and never suspected, a new acquaintance who helped her with her dog at the veterinary clinic). The stories will be innocent, and suspecting something of a person about whom they talk so clearly and openly will seem like nonsense in men’s eyes, but remember that a woman cheats when she falls in love, and they fall in love not with the body, but with the attitude towards them. Between you, buried in a tablet, and a nondescript old acquaintance, interested in her mood every morning, she will choose to open up to him - first with a minor problem, then with a larger one, and then he will become closer and dearer to her than the person sleeping in her bed.

The changed behavior can be not only of a detached nature, when a woman tries to avoid you as the cause of her dissatisfaction (sexual, moral, material), but also have the opposite appearance of over-care and attentiveness. This reaction occurs among women who condemn infidelity, who until recently hoped to receive what they lacked from their spouse, and are now tormented by a feeling of guilt. With a new lover, the hunger for human warmth is already satisfied, the woman feels better and stops making all offended claims to her husband - now there is somewhere else to get. Often husbands perceive this beginning of the destruction of a marriage as the happiness of the second honeymoon that has fallen on them - the complaints are over, the wife smiles all the time, does not pester her with questions, takes care of her, and even looks great. Only behind this lies guilt and indifference. Take a closer look at where your spouse gets the support she previously asked for, who fixes her computer that always hangs, where she gets answers to questions that arise, and think about why she is less and less interested in where you have been, what you have achieved at work, and what you think about your relationships.

The wife may spend more and more time on the Internet, and if earlier it was surfing interesting sites, searching for articles and events, now most of it is occupied by various social networks, and you increasingly fall asleep alone to the sound of the typing keyboard. She goes into communication in the virtual world to make up for the lack of warmth and interest that she expects from you, and it is better not to ignore this signal, glad that she is behind, because soon either the virtual friendship will develop into a very real romance or she will understand what to do she has nothing in front of the monitor and will start looking for something in real life.

Any change in behavior should alarm you, because if this is not a sign of betrayal, then it is definitely about a change in the internal climate of the relationship, and it would be good to clarify everything before it is overwhelmed by a typhoon. And rest assured, while a woman blows your mind, calls you three hundred times a day with stupid questions, gets offended to the point of scandal because you are half an hour late for dinner, she has no one on her mind. Moreover, an increase in questions and complaints about your coldness may indicate your lady’s jealousy, which indicates your value to her, but do not go too far, otherwise you can get revenge in a similar way.

Before actually cheating, a woman will complain hundreds of times about the lack of attention, ask for your time, participation and gifts - this is like the last chance, ignoring which the husband loses his wife. Being in a good state, cared for and loved, a woman will not think of asking for attention and asking about your feelings, just like looking for it elsewhere.

How to recognize the signs of your wife's cheating?

Clear signs of a wife's infidelity are a radical change in image or an increased desire to improve appearance. It usually starts with the wardrobe, a more careful selection of clothes, instead of running out as usual in a comfortable suit. Long-forgotten heels that used to be on your dates are taken off the shelves, but now they only belong on holiday trips to the restaurant. She can update her wardrobe with new bright and seductive things, but this is not yet critical, since it can be done out of spite to her friends or after a caustic remark from a colleague. But if you notice several new expensive sets of branded exclusive lace underwear, then it’s time to sound the alarm. Not every woman wears a beautiful lace set every day, because in terms of convenience it is inferior to cotton comfortable underwear, and its very purpose is to be seen in a rather intimate setting. Replacing your usual tights with stockings is the same as all things that make men incredibly happy, but are not so comfortable to wear them every day, especially if you are deprived of displaying all this beauty.

In addition to clothing, changes concern makeup (it may appear for those who did not wear makeup, become brighter or change in color palette for those who are used to applying it, or may disappear, but sparkling eyes will make a woman more beautiful), as well as hairstyles (unwashed hair , the loosely tied ponytail will disappear, and trips to get a haircut, and at the same time for a manicure, will become more frequent). Going in for fitness, buying a membership to a sports club, regularly visiting a cosmetologist may be your wife’s usual routine, but if this has not happened even close in her life, then the desire to look better screams about its presence, and it’s worth thinking about (maybe this is for you, due to with an age crisis, or maybe an inspiration has appeared).

The appearance of new things that have a strange explanation is also one of the signs. Gold earrings, perfume and boots given away by a friend because they didn’t suit the style, smell, or size; a phone or camera purchased at a promotion or won in a hypermarket; chocolate and flowers, which are regular gifts at work. Analyze the situation, how likely such a confluence of events is, check the availability of similar promotions in stores, thank her friends for the gifts and monitor the reaction (remember, friends can be warned).

And when you, out of habit, go to check your email from her laptop, you notice a password on it or that her previously open social profiles are closed, you can ask about what is happening. Perhaps there is another reason and they will tell you right away, but cleared browser history, deleted calls and SMS on the phone and messages on networks (although you hear a regular notification sound about new ones even in the evening and at night) is a direct indication that the wife has a second life hidden from you.

How to recognize your wife's cheating behavior?

In addition to external changes, the cheating woman’s behavior changes, unlike a man who calmly combines two passions in his soul and brain, the woman is completely immersed in a new feeling, a new partner, which is impossible not to notice from the changed behavior, which naturally has its own signs, different from caused by other events.

A change in sexual behavior is perhaps the most striking indicator of the presence of a third party in your relationship, and there can be two manifestations: the wife has become cold and is trying in every possible way to avoid not only intimacy, but also your touch (you are now like a stranger, emotionally she is with someone else, and this leaves an imprint) or, on the contrary, shows more activity in intimacy, and you notice new habits or techniques (the activity is explained by a feeling of guilt or the desire to hide the fact of betrayal, and innovations were received from a good new teacher). And direct physical evidence of infidelity can be condoms in your wife’s purse or packaging of used emergency contraception.

Interest in your life disappears, and she not only ceases to be interested in how your day went, but she is no longer interested in the reasons for the delay at work or where you go for the whole weekend with men without wives. Parties, late messages, calls from other women - what gave rise to many questions, indignation or scandal, now does not force her to be distracted from scrolling through her Facebook feed. Paying a lot of attention to you when your own life becomes more meaningful and interesting, and you no longer evoke feelings, becomes impossible. Many people stop cooking and put aside everyday life, because now they don’t see the point in it. Why feed a man who is no longer interesting, why support a house where you don’t want to be? For the same reason of indifference, she no longer argues with you, agreeing with everything, and has stopped constantly pointing out your shortcomings in everyday life. This disregardful attitude reflects the discovery of a new nest and the fact that the woman is preparing to move there, and she doesn’t care much about everything that happens in this house.

Your wife is becoming financially independent and if earlier she asked you for money for a cafe with her girlfriends and a taxi, now she attends more events, goes to salons more often, but does not contact you. A new relationship in its romantic stage, seasoned with infidelity, encourages other men to look after you beautifully and be generous not only with compliments, but also financially. This is combined with late returns home, explained by additional work. She returns by taxi or the company assigns her a driver, but you can’t meet her, moreover, this harmonious legend includes an increase in her income and complete independence from you.

And the last behavioral sign is the lack of direct eye contact, a constantly closed posture, monosyllabic answers to your questions. The defensive behavior of a closed person, reminiscent of interaction with strangers at a general seminar, is an indicator that you have become an outsider to her.

Should I sort out my relationship with my wife’s lover or not? You don’t have any relationship with your wife’s lover and need to sort things out with him. This wife entered into marriage with you, swore an oath of fidelity, gave birth to your children, she is part of your family, and not her lover at all, it is your relationship with her - so find out everything with your wife. Because you know, your wife won’t end up just because you punch her lover in the face. Or he will tell you.

I want to allow my wife to have sex with her lover. Opinions? You are doing this out of powerlessness. Allowing what you cannot prohibit is an act of weakness. And this will no longer be a marriage or even an imitation of it, but some completely different type of relationship. Here the wife is not a wife, and the husband is not a husband. There are men for whom the presence of wives and lovers “turns them on,” as they say, and not only sexually, but in general adds spice to their existence, and if you are one of those people, then everything is clear, I don’t have a question. But if not, then it is better to part with such a wife than to indulge her. Anyway, it’s not you, her, but she’ll leave you: such a woman needs a strong, strong-willed man who will grab her by the hair, bend her over and whip her on the bottom with the reins. And then she will understand (hardly?) where it is good and where it is bad. Is your wife texting her ex-lover? He is not your wife's ex. She has an interest in him, she communicates with him regularly, and if she doesn't sleep with him right now, she will in the future. But most likely he’s already asleep. A former lover is a man with whom absolutely all contacts are severed. If at least the correspondence has been saved, then this is not a former lover, but a “lover in pause mode.”

How to punish your wife's lover? Get a divorce and force him to marry her. Become your ex-wife's lover yourself - let him suffer from jealousy. It was not your lover who married you and swore an oath of fidelity, but your wife...

The wife's lover is the boss and sleeps with him because of his career. If you think that her career is so important that you can do it in any way, including this, then be patient and live with the walker. Or get a divorce. This will further contribute to the career of your unfaithful wife, and will free you from the role of a cuckold. By the way, how far has your wife progressed up the career ladder, spreading her legs under her boss? And it won't move forward. She gives herself up for hope alone.... And for pleasure, of course, too.

Did I let my wife go to her lover? Or rather, she left on her own. Well, now breathe freely and file for divorce and you need to get rid of this woman. Otherwise, she will start playing with you - she will live with this lover, then she will return to you, then she will go to someone else, then she will return... one word - she's a prostitute! If she really fell in love, she would have filed for divorce herself, even before leaving for her lover. And so she keeps you and your marriage with her in reserve.

How can I get my wife to break up with him and return to her husband? Incredible intrigue. File for divorce, but don't rush things. External hardness divorce her. This often works well. Well, the good old way - with the reins on the butt.

How to treat your wife's ex-lovers? Treat them with kindness, because you are all members of the same family!

Both are to blame

Natalya Kozhina, AiF.ru: Elena, there is an opinion that women cheat less often than men, is this true?

Elena Tsedova: Female infidelity is also common, it’s just not customary to talk about it. But a man takes a lover primarily to get physical pleasure and variety, while a woman satisfies her emotional needs. This is the main difference. You are unlikely to meet a woman who, seeing a handsome male figure on the way to work, immediately decides to cheat on her spouse. But if a man saw long legs, and at the same time their owner smiled at him, he would not mind going to bed with her. For women, everything is closely connected with emotional needs; for them, sex is, first of all, communication.

—What can push a woman into the arms of another man?

— There are several reasons, but the main one is the lack of emotional support from a man. Perhaps the woman lacks a sense of her own attractiveness and importance in the eyes of her husband. At the same time, she may really love him, her family, children, home, but she needs affection, compliments, attention, but her husband does not give them.

It happens that a woman not only lacks emotions, she does not need a family. However, she remains married because society puts pressure on her: marriage is once and for life, you have children. And the woman is trying to find some kind of outlet in this situation, because, in essence, everything does not suit her. The only thing that can help her feel happy is the care of another person. Such women in their affairs on the side do not chase enviable lovers, but respond to almost the first person they meet, who captivates her with conversations about the stars and scatters them with compliments.

There are betrayals due to lack of adrenaline. When a woman’s life is normal, but she’s incredibly bored. And suddenly some corporate evening arises, where she drinks a glass of wine and immediately finds herself a hero, next to whom she can feel already forgotten feelings. The most important thing in such betrayal is to hide from someone. This is a kind of quest - “Hide your love from everyone.” The woman lacks game, and she finds it on the side.

In addition, it happens that a man simply does not satisfy a woman in sex, and here we are talking about both the most banal physical dissatisfaction and emotional, but more often both are present.

And some people cheat out of spite. When a wife finds out that her husband has a mistress, she tries in such a strange way to take revenge on him or prove to herself that she can still please men.

Good men rarely leave. But by “good” I don’t mean Batman, no. I mean a man who satisfies the emotional needs of his other half.

— It turns out that if a woman cheated, the man is guilty?

- No. In any betrayal, both are to blame. But men are inherently polygamous and, even when married, pay attention to the opposite sex many times more than women when thinking about sex. And a woman, when she finds a man whom she loves and is comfortable with, plunges headlong only into him, letting others pass by. For her, marriage is a kind of status, she values ​​it. Good men rarely leave. But by “good” I don’t mean Batman, no. I mean a man who satisfies the emotional needs of his other half. If a woman is not satisfied physically, she is able to survive this, but if emotionally, then most likely she will look for a relationship on the side. The excuse “I make money and this is my main function that makes her happy” does not work. A woman can understand with her brain that her husband works, she lives in a luxurious house, she has an expensive car, her children study in the best schools, but at the same time she will feel very lonely.

Night SMS and eternal time pressure

— How to understand that a woman is cheating?

— A clear sign is the active use of the phone or computer, when at the sound of an SMS she runs headlong to read the message as quickly as possible. Also, if the wife sets passwords on her gadgets, she begins to take her phone with her into the shower under the pretext of an important call, and at night she systematically receives text messages from “Galina the Accountant,” which cannot wait until the morning. This is the first call. The next sign is a radical change of clothes, a change of linen. If earlier the wife wore what was comfortable, then with the advent of her lover she begins to wear what is beautiful. She remembers heels, changes her hairstyle, makeup, and becomes brighter. All this happens because when a woman falls in love, she wants to be beautiful.

I note that a man can easily combine several lovers in his head at once and behave completely calmly. He will not give himself away either in his clothes or in his behavior.

And the woman’s behavior completely changes, because she plunges headlong into a new relationship. She can become either more irritable, or, on the contrary, as if atonement for her sins, more attentive, tender, and affectionate.

And one more point that is worth paying attention to is a kind of harbinger that the woman is not cheating on you, but she is clearly uncomfortable around you, and perhaps this will further result in an affair on the side. She begins to think of places for herself to go to, this could be not only regular get-togethers with friends, but also a busy schedule. For example, a woman lives, is not particularly interested in anything, but one fine day she takes English courses, cutting and sewing, a gym, dancing, running, etc. She constantly wants to leave home. But, of course, this does not apply to those who truly realize themselves through some hobbies. There should be hobbies, but if they never existed, and then they became more and more numerous, this is a sign that the person’s family is bad. Also, do not ignore the appearance of a large number of new friends who invite you to meetings. This may also indicate that your woman is in search of new emotions. And as they say, he who seeks will always find.

— Do I need to admit to cheating on my husband?

— Everyone makes this decision for themselves. But I can say for sure that it is more difficult for a woman to keep the fact of betrayal to herself; she begins to reproach herself from the inside, even if it was a one-time story. If a man cheated once, he will not worry much about it, he will very quickly forget about such an episode. Remorse can only appear if he has a permanent mistress, since living with several families is very difficult for most men emotionally.

Personally, my advice is not to shift from a sore head to a healthy one, forgive yourself, accept yourself and think carefully before confessing to your husband. The most important thing is to understand what is more important to you: family or your personal peace. If you decide to choose peace of mind, then be prepared for the consequences.

Few men will admit to cheating. For him, this is a humiliation of honor and dignity, so it is better to keep his mouth shut. Women forgive infidelity much easier.

Treason for the good?

— How should a man behave if he thinks that his wife is cheating? Should he challenge the woman to be frank and confess?

- First, honestly answer yourself the question: what will you do if your wife really cheats? You need to play out the entire possible chain of events in your head. She cheated, which means I’m leaving her, we divide the property, the children remain with the wife, etc. If a man is ready to go to the end, then you can find out everything and get to the bottom of the truth. If he understands that he loves his wife and does not want to lose her, there is no need to find out anything. It’s easier to accept the position that it was just flirting, not love, and live happily ever after.

— I’ve heard more than once that cheating can help a fading relationship, but what do you think about this?

- There is some truth in this, indeed, after betrayal and even after some light flirting, it’s as if a woman gets an electric shock, she understands that she has a family, children, a home, everything is fine. This is the same emotional recharge that she so lacked. Yes, a woman needed beautiful words, courtship, affection, but the moment she receives all this from another man, she comes to the realization that all this is a myth. And real life with my husband and children. However, feeling some guilt, she may become affectionate, tender and begin to pay more attention to her husband. Accordingly, what will the woman receive in return? Also more attention. Therefore, yes, it really happens that cheating in some sense revives faded marital feelings, but it is better to try to help your marriage using other methods.

A woman values ​​a man by his actions; if actions are directed towards her, she is unlikely to need a pumped-up trainer from a fitness club for one night.

— What do you advise men to do so that their wives do not look for love on the side?

— You need to give a woman emotions, never forget that she needs compliments, attention, care. If you told your wife ten years ago that she has beautiful eyes, this does not mean that now you can never talk about it at all. Give gifts, by “gifts” I don’t mean yachts and fur coats every day, just some little surprises. It is imperative to talk with each other, not only about the problems of the global economy and about the child’s progress at school, but also about your personal, about each other’s experiences, about each other’s desires, to sort out discontent at the stage of their inception, and not when everything is already rushing in an avalanche accusations. Relationships are always an exchange of emotions, reciprocity. The man gave him flowers, the woman prepared him dinner, he gave him evening caresses, she gave him a massage, etc. A woman will not leave an attentive and caring man, because she gets everything she needs from him. A woman values ​​a man by his actions; if his actions are directed towards her, she is unlikely to need a pumped-up trainer from a fitness club for one night.

You stubbornly avoid answering. Translate everything into theory. Okay, I’ll ask you a more specific question, I hope after the 10th time you’ll answer without excuses. So the development of the embryo emphasizes that all of nature was created by one person? why is this in the embryo? For what? Why not make a human embryo immediately after cell division, since it itself did not originate from anyone? why does he look like a fish? an amphibian, a primate? and only then per person? Can someone see this without instruments? or is this some kind of perversion? Why are people often born very similar to animals? with tails, fangs, not upright, with thick hair? After all, all people descended only from people, do not intersect with animals, but can be born similar to them? How does your faith explain this? Just punishment and so on, no need. I'm finally waiting for a logical explanation and not fantasy. I repeat about jugs and bowls... make a clay jug without clay and water, well! does not work? those. The jug and the bowl have one beginning; the development began from the lower and diverged later. If you go deeper, then initially any jug was at the beginning clay, then a mass of water, then a simple shape, then round, then a jug, then a handle is attached to it, a pattern is applied and it appears in its final form. Don’t you notice that there is evolution here too! This evolution can be stopped at any place.. just make a jug.. put it aside, then attach a handle to it and it will have a handle, then put a design on it or not.. but there is a final jug, the most developed of all. Now about space. You have no facts that humanity has flown. And judging by its development, it could not fly in principle. There are also no tales about global floods and the rebirth of humanity. Now about rock paintings. A person always draws what he sees, right? Why are pyramids and other primitive objects still preserved, but there are no parts of aircraft or spacecraft? Why do people who have aircraft, know how to do trepanation, have primitive sewerage and pipelines, did not know how to make glass and lit their houses not with electricity? Maybe it was all not human and not from here? that’s why all the ships flew away and there were no remains and nothing at all, except for really primitive mechanisms? How to combine high intelligence and, excuse me, eating from a pork trough? And lastly, you don’t know how to use sarcasm, don’t try to do something you don’t understand, it turns out... how to put it, it’s not very nice. Once again I look forward not to theoretical reasoning and attributions to your faith, but to real answers. Once again.

if you don't want to listen, just say so. I’m just trying to explain it to you logically, but you don’t want to listen to anyone but yourself. You would take my statements and refute them with facts and not just shout that everything is wrong. Even you don’t have answers to all the questions posed - you don’t think that the embryo evolves in the mother’s stomach, adapting to the environment? The fact that there are genetic mutations and failures does not confirm or refute evolution - errors and failures are everywhere, and if you consider that failure occurs under the influence of external factors (alcohol, tobacco, drugs, environmental pollution, etc.) then there is no punishment God's? and the fact that the failure can be in any direction also shows that animals are sometimes born with a human face, but this does not mean that animals originated from humans.
As for without water and clay - so water and clay are an analogy of a cell. A cell is what all living things are made of, including plants - this is the building material from which everything is made. And when you describe the process of making a jug, you show precisely its creation and not evolution (evolution is the mutation and adaptation of an adult organism to the influence of changing external factors). In other words, if a mug, under the influence of hot tea, began to adapt to the jug so that hot drinks were not poured into it - this is evolution.
About space - to claim that humanity could not fly into space earlier based only on a separate part of history is pure ignorance. If you read the Vedas, there is a mention of aircraft and even division of them into space and terrestrial ones. Once again about the Mayans and their drawing of a helicopter and an airplane - could it be that the drawing was made before the disaster? and where did they go anyway? And by the way, as a builder, I’m very surprised that you consider pyramids a primitive object. Even now, with our technologies and construction machines, we will not be able to repeat them - since the stone was polished after it was laid, and at the same time the stones were selected in such a way that when they lay on top of each other, it was difficult to insert a pin, and without any solution. And the purpose of the pyramids is still unknown - it was then that Tutankhamun restored the destroyed parts of the pyramid (as evidenced by the different masonry of the walls - the stones on one wall were perfectly fitted and on the other they were clumsily laid and made) and adapted them for his own tomb.
Well, again you are missing the possibility of a catastrophe on a planetary scale. Let's think about what will happen if tomorrow there is a disaster with a bunch of survivors. That man will continue to fly into space? will save the drawings of the airplane and spacecraft? But will these drawings be preserved on paper even after a thousand years? But a drawing of children of survivors hollowed out in a cave is easy. Why in a cave? So think about it: can you build a modern house without all the factories and building materials? can you at least produce cement without being primitive? How much do you know about the installation of at least sewerage and water supply in your own home? How many ways do you know to supply water to your home in the absence of electricity? Or do you know how to make a generator in the absence of copper and iron factories? or can you make wire at home? I’m sure that even getting a fire without matches is already a problem for you, but I’m generally silent about making glass. So it turns out that with high intelligence, survivors will happily eat from a pork trough if there is food there.
And the survivors will also be preoccupied with survival (getting skins and food - since there are no factories and a refrigerator with food) and will not be able to pass on their little knowledge (within a small group of people) to their grandchildren, even writing and reading, and only because of the low value this knowledge in the process of obtaining food in the wild and it will be lost only to be reinvented after millennia.
In general, take scientific works based on all the inexplicable facts and findings, there is a lot of interesting stuff there. Previously, there was even a series of brochures called Knowledge with a scientific approach to every inexplicable find including the Mayans and pyramids and a hammer from pure iron (pure iron is still not able to be obtained) and rivets from titanium (they began to process it at the end of the last century) and geographical maps all over the world, made before Columbus's voyage, including Antarctica without ice cover (the accuracy of which was only recently verified using an echo sounder).
I listen to you every time and ask you the same questions for the 10th time. You either theoretically invent something, then avoid answers, or ignore it. If you don’t have answers to my questions, first of all, don’t forward them to me. I repeat once again, your faith is no proof of anything! Didn't I provide you with the facts? Those. embryo development, archaeological excavations, are not facts for you? Let me ask the question: How does the development of an embryo confirm the existence of God? God the geneticist? Those. he monitors every birth, but doesn’t have time to punish adults? if there are deviations, is it God's punishment? What kind of ignorance? It is ignorant to believe in something without the existence of some facts. As always, you have only assumptions. If humanity flew into space, at least some artifacts must remain. You can't fly into space on boulders of stone, it's not like trepanning skulls. Here! The evolution of animals is an adaptation to the environment, but this evolution has a limit, strength and other things, so animals began to develop a brain! It is not just the fittest who survive, but the smarter ones!!! Who knows that it is easier to do the smart thing, find a cave, make a fire, than just sleep in the snow and rely on your own warmth. About the drawings, I said, you apparently are not attentive, I will repeat to you. If there were such devices, where is anything from them, except for the drawings? those. various antiquities have been preserved, but parts and mechanisms are missing? evaporated? Where is the evidence that someone with great intelligence and technical means did not help people build the pyramids? not earthlings, but aliens? then it is clear why everything in humans is overwhelmingly underdeveloped and primitive and why there are no machines and mechanisms, they were taken by aliens. What an electoral disaster you have, all your equipment was taken away! thinking worldwide then? intellectual meteorite? highly developed tsunami? Now about personalities. I know very well about the sewage system in my house, I did it myself. I am also well versed in mechanisms, internal combustion engines and electric engines. For me it is not at all a problem to light a fire in such conditions where you will die of hunger and cold. I repeat the question for completion. Where did at least some parts and parts of machines, aircraft, spaceships go? Regarding time and decay, iron products that are much older than the pyramids have survived to this day, and often in almost excellent condition. where are the factories for the production of these machines, metal casting, etc.? also evaporated in a mysterious and mystical way? again a smart disaster? Why did you destroy the products selectively? I will repeat it several times. Maybe you’ll see, I don’t need to expose your faith to anyone in general with tales about many worldwide catastrophes from your book. I'm finally waiting for an answer to at least one question. Regarding scientific literature and the unknown. Who said that all this was done by man or humanity? Blind faith again? If a person did this and went into a cave, became stupid to the point of animals and the cave, how could he return, without evolution, to the knowledge that he had lost? And again the question is, where are the remains of mechanisms, apparatus, factories for the construction of these things, for the production of metals, minerals, etc., etc.? Where? disappeared? so selectively and consistently, or did people create mechanisms out of thin air, like believing and materializing, and then, after death, everything dematerialized? I look forward to answers to such simple questions.
Do you even read what I write or just skim it? I don’t tell facts, I tell a theory just like you - you also don’t have facts, but embryo development proves absolutely nothing. But many archaeological excavations lead to exactly my thoughts - it feels like you are not at all interested in these very excavations and are trying to build your evidence on those excavations that you were told at school - look beyond your nose.
Also, you don’t even know the essence of evolution and are trying to argue. So, with evolution, it is the survival of the strongest, not the smartest. It makes no sense that you will be smart if stupid and strong neighbors take away your food and you die of hunger. That is why in nature animals are strong and hardy, but not smart.
As for why the factories were not preserved - we don’t know, maybe the development of man was so great that factories were not needed and everything was produced by some kind of energy (back again, why were the pyramids needed?) and what man now knows is 1% of those knowledge. By the way, there was such a scientist Nikola Tesla at the beginning of the 20th century, so what he did with electrical energy still remains a mystery, how did he do it? (read at your leisure - the Tunguska meteorite is also associated with his name).
Before arguing, did you even read anything other than a school textbook? otherwise I got the impression that I was arguing with the school curriculum. And in general, read at least something other than the embryo.
Good luck. If you cannot refute at least one of my assumptions other than “all this is not true,” then I have nothing to talk to you about.
P.S. If you understand the internal combustion engine, assemble it with your own hands in your garage, but not from engine spare parts, but from scrap metal, and just let the engine itself lie nearby as a sample (and at the same time, you should also make devices for metal processing yourself in your garage, after all where will you get this after a disaster), and if it starts and drives, then I will be the first to admit that I was wrong and in any disaster nothing should be lost.

We are all owners, this is male nature. We are ready to stand up for ours and fight to the last. A man is a breadwinner, a protector, a leader; the well-being of the entire pack and his personal status depend on his vigilance and resilience. Therefore, we are prone to jealousy, often in vain. The very thought of infidelity causes anger, rage, and can throw you off balance. But how can we determine whether there was betrayal or whether it is our conjectures and fears?

You should not re-read forums in search of confirmation of your own fears. Remember the proverb: “The eyes are big in fear”? Don't beat yourself up. Giving in to emotions, random impulses and throwing up scandals and hysterics when the slightest difficulties arise is the domain of women. Take a deep breath, exhale slowly. Let's think logically.

Typical story. She is beautiful, cheerful, sociable, we live normally. I love, I care, I do the housework, I help around the house, I provide for the family, I give compliments, what does she lack? I feel like I’m moving away, I’m constantly in my own thoughts, I’ve grown cold, I’ve been repeatedly delayed either at work or with my friends... Understandable suspicions and mistrust arise. How to find out what is causing behavior changes?

According to statistics, only 25% of girls cheat on their regular partners, while 75% of guys have this sin. This means that suspicions in most cases are completely unfounded.

1. Often conducts incomprehensible correspondence. Especially if he then erases messages, browsing history in the browser, sets passwords, tries to avoid handing over the phone into your hands, gets very tense, worries if this happens. He doesn’t leave gadgets unattended and carries them with him everywhere, including the shower. Leaves the room during a conversation, hangs up the call, whispers, covers the phone with his hand, answers with short phrases like “Yes, I understand,” “No, we’ll figure it out.” Doesn't tell you the truth about the other person. The subscriber is signed with a female name, but from the style of conversation one can understand that the conversation was with a guy. Perhaps he’s just preparing a surprise for you or doesn’t want to burden you with work problems, but it’s worth checking. Try to talk frankly, calmly discuss the situation, explain yourself. If she has something to hide, you will notice it.
2. Constant delays and tardiness. It’s especially suspicious if something like this has never been noticed before. In addition, she returns with the smell of alcohol and disheveled hair, although she spent the whole morning styling it. When explaining the delay, she speaks quickly, confusedly, gesticulates strongly, or, conversely, slowly, using full sentences, as if she had prepared in advance. A shifting gaze, excitement, an attempt to avoid a direct answer, or change the topic of conversation are suspicious symptoms.
3. She is noticed in the company of unfamiliar men while walking, having a cup of coffee in a cafe. Perhaps this is true of her former classmate, whom she has not seen for ten years, but she needs to check whether her wife has an affair on the side.
4. She hides where she is going and why, although she is usually talkative and overly sociable. Tries to get off with standard phrases and avoid a direct answer.
5. Sudden cooling. Doesn't talk about love, doesn't show feelings, sex becomes rare. I stopped being interested in your affairs. It is suspicious if, for no apparent reason, a lady suddenly begins to fuss around, looking devotedly into the eyes, perhaps she is consumed by a feeling of guilt. Unusual sexual impulses, experiments. It may well be that the lady is trying to diversify her life, to escape the ordinary, and spent the entire evening looking on the Internet for interesting “hot things to surprise her husband.” It can also be assumed that the wife has an “inspiration”.
6. Started talking about divorce. Often this topic comes up during quarrels. A clear symptom of the crisis of your union. Offer to visit a family psychologist together.
7. Pays excessive attention to his own appearance. Suddenly I became interested in sports, changed my clothing style, hairstyle, hair color, makeup, and went on a diet. You notice expensive things, bought beyond your means, although the family budget has not changed.
8. We found her profile on a dating site. This is a signal that a woman is trying to compensate for the lack of attention and communication with her husband by resorting to virtual flirting with strangers or looking for a more suitable match. Regardless of the circumstances, such a situation requires discussion and clarification of the motives for the action. Sometimes such problems are solved by reconsidering views on family life. Ask her out on a date, even if you've been together for over ten years. Romance, flirting, a new environment will add spice to everyday life, help you get closer, and discover new facets of your other half.

How to check the fidelity of your other half?

Option 1. Unscheduled business trip. Wait a couple of days in a hotel, watching your spouse, or seek help from a private detective. It is better to choose weekends to give her freedom of action. If your wife has a lover, she will definitely take advantage of your absence.

Option 2: Establish surveillance using a hidden camera. Get away for a while, for example, go night fishing.

Option 3. Spend all your free time with your wife, communicate, accompany you on shopping trips, arrange walks, romantic evenings, use your imagination, be unpredictable, interesting. If suspicions are unfounded, spending time together will only benefit the marriage. A bad sign is attempts to escape under any pretext, to avoid your company, excitement, nervousness. This means there is something to hide. There may be a spare jack on the horizon for the love card game.

Psychologists say that the reasons for even the infidelity of young ladies are radically different from those of men.

Why is she unfaithful?

1. Passion. Sudden, merciless. A woman forgets about everything, is ready to give up her family, her usual way of life for the sake of a dubious spark. The feeling of dissatisfaction, irritability, the desire to cut off previous ties or, conversely, a deep feeling of guilt worsens.
2. Retribution. Repay rudeness, disrespect or betrayal in the same coin. As they say, to spite my enemies I will sell the goat so that the children do not drink milk. Let the scoundrel know how painful it is. It is characteristic of inexperienced young individuals, as well as individuals with low self-esteem.
3. Backup option. Especially unpleasant. Every man strives to be the first, the main thing for a lady. The prospect of constant competition may amuse the fair sex, but will not arouse much enthusiasm in the spouse.
4. Compensation. Making up for a deficiency and a subconscious attempt to cause jealousy and attract attention.
5. Sex. Banal lust, the search for new sensations, which for some reasons cannot be realized in a marital relationship.
6. Boredom. Thirst for experiments, variety, changes in life, plus an excess of free time.
7. Increased importance in your own eyes. Often, in the heat of a quarrel, we make reproaches like “Who needs you, besides me?” Sound familiar? Low self-esteem, the desire to assert oneself, plays a bad joke, pushing a woman to test the truth of this statement in practice.

Factors that contribute to cheating

Let us list the factors for the appearance of communication on the side:

1. Prolonged absence of a spouse. A classic topic for jokes: “My husband is returning from a business trip...”
2. Alcohol intoxication
3. A holiday romance
4. Frequent conflicts in the family, dissatisfaction with marriage. The illusion of an easy way to satisfy one’s own needs, to get what is missing in a marriage, an attempt to get away from problems.

Don’t forget, a strong alliance is built on trust, mutual understanding, willingness to help and support in difficult times. Excessive, unreasonable jealousy will only offend your loved one. Be sincere with each other.