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What is better: equal marriage or spiritual marriage? Spiritual marriage

Igor Nikolaev (01/17/1960, Boar) and Yulia Proskuryakova (08/11/1982, Dog). Examples of spiritual marriage are also couples Dmitry Kharatyan and Marina Maiko, John Lennon and Yoko Ono, Katya and Alexander Strizhenov, Leonid Agutin and Angelica Varum.

SPIRITUAL COMMANDMENTS.

So: only that union in which the spouses’ types of thinking are mutually complementary can be called a spiritual marriage. Thus, the will is complemented by mysticism, and logic is complemented by realism. Rat - Rooster, Rat - Bull, Rat - Snake, Monkey - Rooster, Monkey - Bull, Dragon - Rooster, Dragon - Bull, Dragon - Snake. In this half, one marriage is missing; it has gone under the vector (Monkey - Snake). The other half has more holes. Horse - Cat, Horse - Goat, Tiger - Cat, Tiger - Boar, Dog - Cat, Dog - Boar, Dog - Goat. In this half there are two marriages missing (Horse - Boar and Tiger - Goat), it is clear that these are vector exceptions. Any other marriage, no matter how many spiritual insights, UFO flights, psychic breakthroughs and poltergeists it contains, cannot be called a spiritual marriage.

a) The ideal situation for entering into a spiritual marriage is a feeling of unbearable loneliness. Only the one who carries within himself the fear of the end of his youth, the fear of the loss of friends and loved ones, the fear that children will grow up and run away, the fear of darkness and the abyss into which one cannot step without at least holding hands with someone, only he was finally ripe for spiritual marriage.

b) Protecting themselves from loneliness and anticipating the betrayal of friends, colleagues and other citizens, confessors must strike a preemptive blow and be the first to turn away from the world of people. You can say hello, talk, tell jokes, but at the same time realize that people are just a piece of decoration, and there are only two real characters in the play of life - spiritually interacting spouses. That’s why it’s so easy to communicate with other people, because they are just spectators and listeners, or maybe readers, but they cannot influence the real action, only two people decide everything.

c) Be wise, deep, do not look for simple paths and easy truths. Complicate where it is simple, muddy where it is transparent, pile up where it was spacious. This is your destiny. You are called to difficult routes, leave simple paths to other people, your path is not banal. Hence the very style of your communication, go from the opposite, you want to say “Yes!”, say “No!”, look for the black in white, look for the black in the villain, look for where he is kind in the hero, look for where he is mean in the hero. This is what Stanislavsky taught us.

d) Communicate limitlessly. Do not deny yourself the pleasure of turning any topic into a subject of great wisdom and philosophical research. Learn to listen to an opinion that is unpleasant and incomprehensible to you, find a symmetrical answer to it, and engage in long-term contact of tangential blows. But head-on collisions must be avoided. Spiritual marriage is not in a hurry, does not run anywhere, and therefore quick decisions, truths born in heated debates, are not needed here. Take your time, don’t butt heads, it’s not the truth that is needed in a spiritual marriage, but only the search for it, a joint path to this truth. And hence the favorite style of communication - one talks about one thing, the other about another. Questions remain unanswered, effects change with causes, up becomes down, right becomes left, and so on. The main thing is that this style does not anger your interlocutors, but amuses them.

e) Hence the main criterion for the vitality of a spiritual union - the spouses must be extremely interesting to each other. They are like strange little animals, like aliens. Unprecedented, incomprehensible, fascinating. Hence the conclusion - disguise yourself, do not help reveal you to the end, keep secrets, muddy the waters, cover your tracks. A transparent and clear person in a spiritual marriage will not last long. The ideal option for mutual alienation is great mastery in exactly what the spouse is most mediocre at. Mastery of something that is beyond your partner’s understanding is the path to maximum delight. And the state of creative enthusiasm in a spiritual marriage is a good thing, a necessary thing.

f) The unique skills of the spouses inevitably give rise to a system of two careers. But the trick is that each of the two careers is accomplished not on its own, but for the sake of an eternal friend. This is the uniqueness of a spiritual career; it is selfless, because its achievement is the delight and satisfaction of that only person for whose sake it is worth living and creating. So from one tandem four are born. It’s not so much two people interacting with each other, and not even so much two careers, as each spouse with someone else’s career. They kind of pull each other, in modern terms, they become producers for each other. This option would be ideal.

g) The fear of spiritual marriage as a kind of mental hospital, an asylum for the insane, a forge of all types of deviations and pathologies is completely unjustified. This is a marriage of the highest spiritual takeoff, an experiment of pure and selfless penetration beyond the horizon, beyond the line separating the temporary world from the eternal world. Well, if someone has not yet matured to understand the depths of the universe, then this is his problem. No one has yet proven that humanity must stop in its development, therefore, we must move forward, and there is only him ahead, a selfless, quiet and deep spiritual union, no matter how abnormal it may seem now, when viewed from the world of greed, aggression and cult individual achievements.

h) Those who have already decided for themselves that a spiritual marriage is a meeting of angels with wings, that everyone in it walks in soft slippers, and speaks only in a whisper, the author is forced to disappoint. The participants in the spiritual union are too wise and too deep to skim the surface of sanctimonious stereotypes and to abide by the rules of morality imposed on the plebeians. Confessors can do everything that their personal conscience allows them, not borrowed from the copybooks of lawyers and dogmatists, but suffered in the endless struggles of spirit and flesh. By the way, there has always been enough flesh in a spiritual marriage; this is not some kind of ethereal romantic union. This is the paradox of compensation. While the flesh is strong, it strives for romantic heights, but the almost disembodied spirit clings to the flesh with both hands.

i) Spiritual marriage, in its ideal version, should perform a miracle - reveal the line of truly useful interaction between the sexes. Flying through the romance of the superficial layer of external differences, making its way through the palisade of the patriarchal economic expediency of the division of labor, and finally slipping through the period of the war of the sexes, the spiritual sign demonstrates the main difference between the sexes. A man is a brilliant creator, a woman is an equally brilliant perceiver. Male creativity is always too independent, too unfounded, too arbitrary. A woman follows a longer, more ornate path, compares and assimilates other people’s things better and more objectively. In this sense, they are an ideal couple.

j) Marriage is strong in its achievements. In a spiritual marriage, these achievements lie in the unique path of coexistence of two careers. No one will ever come up with such perfect co-authorship as in spiritual marriage. If there is at least something in the world that exists at the intersection of two sciences, two arts, two sides of existence, then the highest success should be achieved there by a man and a woman intertwined either with their bodies, or their minds, or their souls. The dark and dense soul is male, the light and loose soul is female.

k) By strengthening their individualities in spiritual marriage, spouses receive complete emancipation in relation to society. Thus, this marriage is inherently antisocial. A romantic marriage must give its beauty to society, a patriarchal marriage must give its children to society, an equal marriage must give its energy and its aggression to society. Spiritual marriage owes nothing to society - it is the basis of a future anarchist-individualist society. Well, until the bright future has arrived, do not hesitate to pay less attention to politicians, officials, governments, presidents, states of all types, all kinds of parties, scientific meetings, societies, communities, academies, and so on and so forth...

m) Remember the fairy tale about the “white bull”. This is what spiritual marriage is about. There is movement in marriage, but this movement goes in a spiral, with endless turns in the same circles. Such a movement is in harmony with the essence of marriage, in which nothing is ever agreed upon to the end, where everything is confused, it is not clear where not a single dot is placed, and commas are almost invisible. Therefore, forward - to what is behind or back - to what is in front. Therefore, never give up, there are no reasons that forbid, in case of inconsistency, going to one more circle, then another, another and another... So: the romantic is always unchanged, the equal is always changing, the patriarchal is in gradual deterioration, but the spiritual , thanks to its spiral rise should always improve. This is exactly what the spiral is for. Each topic of marriage should be revised, improved and strengthened from time to time. Just take your time, don’t rush anywhere.

m) Spiritual marriage is the only one of the balanced ones (vector marriage does not count), in which a person “sails away” from his sign. Anyone who possessed a strong-willed type of thinking gradually shifts towards a mystical worldview. The mystic, thanks to whom this advancement took place, in turn moves forward into the element of will. The interaction between the logical and realistic elements is similar. Thus, a person, through unstoppable work and powerful marital interaction, not only changes his destiny, but also transforms what was given to him from birth - his sign.

o) At some stage, spiritual marriage apparently requires constant communication. However, if the “capture” of souls has occurred, then does it really matter whether the spouses are nearby or not? In this, like many other, senses, spiritual marriage is the arithmetic mean of romantic and equal unions. The romantic demanded constant separation, the equal demanded constant contact, therefore, the spiritual demanded something in between. For example, constant contact in conditions of separation, or contactless stay nearby. Most likely, we are talking about a continuous alternation of separations and meetings, approaches and distances. A spiritual marriage should sway.

o) Spiritual marriage is called spiritual because, despite its antisocial and antisocial nature, it is as close as possible to the religious understanding of marriage. There is no chatter about eternal love, no ascetic service, no battle for the cause of the Lord. But there is a real presence of divine forces, which, in fact, are released at the moment the signs descend from their places. The sign is like a cork closing a bottle. The less the cork is ground in, the faster the gin (spirit) living in the bottle begins to evaporate. In a vector marriage, the bottle opens like champagne, with a crash and foam. In a spiritual marriage, the plug is slowly removed.

p) Spiritual marriage experiences antagonism to other marriages less than others. From his height he looks favorably on all other marriages. For him, these are all games, but quite funny ones. It’s fun to play at romance, it’s fun to play at patriarchal relationships, but you can, however, arrange a fight and social competition in the manner of an equal union. Well, when you get tired of all this, you can return to a spiritual union. In this sense, spiritual marriage is the only synthetic one.

To summarize: spiritual marriage, although the most difficult to implement, is not strict in its implementation. Therefore, the very concept of commandments is not entirely appropriate here. It's more about wishes.

The path of spouses to each other in such a union is the most difficult. But for those who commit to such a marriage and are able to do the inner work in search of community, a reward awaits.

Subspecies:
1. Absolute marriage(husband - Rat, Monkey, Dragon; wife - Rooster, Snake, Bull)
2. Intellectual marriage(husband - Cat, Boar, Goat; wife - Horse, Tiger, Dog)
3. Philosophical marriage(husband - Horse, Tiger, Dog; wife - Cat, Boar, Goat)
4. Passionate marriage(husband - Rooster, Snake, Bull; wife - Rat, Monkey, Dragon)

ABSOLUTE MARRIAGE
The down-to-earth will of a woman in such a union has a beneficial effect on a mystically minded man.
Rat - Rooster: The sociability of the spouses and their desire to make the whole world happy should not come at the expense of family values.
Rat - Snake: To maintain the union, the husband must give up too many friendly contacts.
Rat - Ox: You should not enter into a long confrontation - during this time spiritual contact may disappear.

Monkey - Rooster: It is better for the wife to forget about her own career if she wants to save the family. A huge circle of acquaintances can only get in the way.
Monkey - Snake: vector relationships in which the depth of spiritual searches can deprive you of vitality.
Monkey - Ox: family happiness depends on whether the wife is able to discern his loving soul behind her husband’s external strangeness.
Dragon - Rooster: the most important thing for such a couple is to maintain reasonable control over their raging emotions.
Dragon - Snake: Don’t clip your wings with excessive attention to material values. Think about more spiritual things.
Dragon - Ox: this is one of the most successful marriages for a woman of this sign, since the husband calmly reacts to her straightforwardness and stubbornness. But it’s still better to soften your tough temper.

INTELLECTUAL MARRIAGE
In such a union, the creativity of one complements the creativity of the other.
Cat - Horse: The husband in this couple is the most contemplative type and must help his wife with housework.
Cat - Tiger: Excessive daydreaming prevents the couple from building a solid material foundation. Everyday life can destroy relationships.
Cat dog: a woman needs to relax, calm down and not grab onto everything at once. Delegate responsibilities and don't be afraid to have genuine conversations with each other.
Boar - Horse: vector marriage. Oddly enough, it is the wife, the “mistress,” who may not be able to withstand all this round dance.
Boar - Tiger: For such a man, communication with his wife is more important than her cooking.
Boar - Dog: The guiding thread in such a marriage will be the wisdom and tolerance of the wife.
Goat - Horse: this man does not need a family nest, but spiritual unity, so communication and spending time together should come first.
Goat - Tiger: vector ring marriage. Partners need to be lenient towards each other, otherwise mutual claims and isolation from everyday issues will not maintain the relationship for long.
Goat - Dog: do not lower the level of your relationships by going into everyday life: improve your soul, develop together, join forces on spiritual practices.

PHILOSOPHICAL MARRIAGE
The strength of this marriage is in unity. If it disappears. spouses can become enemies.
Horse - Cat: The husband should keep in mind that his wife will never devote herself entirely to the kitchen - do not demand this from her.
Horse - Boar: vector ring. An energetic and focused husband will try to change his wife. How long can she stand this?
Horse - Goat: quarrels disrupt the spiritual unity of the couple, but in such a marriage all difficulties are completely surmountable due to the desire to find a compromise in any situation.
Tiger - Cat: Neither husband nor wife likes to do housework, and each tries to shift these responsibilities onto the shoulders of the other. It's better to do everything together.
Tiger - Boar: It is important that the priority of one’s own achievements does not take precedence over mutual understanding and unity.
Tiger - Goat: and again a vector connection. The husband's pressure may be excessive - a sensitive wife is unlikely to withstand it.
Dog - Cat: The wise position and unnoticed help of the wife will greatly facilitate the spiritual quest of the spouse, for which he will be extremely grateful to her.
Dog - Boar: the wife's optimism will prevail over the husband's habit of being in sadness. The husband will finally get down to business.
Dog - Goat: It is important not to overdo it with housekeeping, otherwise one day you will notice that there is everyday life, but no family.

PASSIONATE MARRIAGE
The spirituality of this union is born in constant struggle. The type of struggle itself is not important.
Rooster - Rat: a representative of this sign cannot do without fans, and a man will win her back from the whole world. It is important not to lose your head in this process.
Rooster - Monkey: the wisdom and goodwill of a woman guarantee that the marriage will not be overwhelmed by passions and the path of spiritual unity will be completed to the end.
Rooster - Dragon: A lot of work is required from the wife in such a union: adopt the breadth of views on any problem from your husband.
Snake - Rat: It’s not easy to win over a cold man, but such a woman will succeed. You need to remember that your partner has a sensitive soul.
Snake - Monkey: Vector union. If the wife takes on all the hardships of everyday life, the marriage can last quite a long time.
Snake - Dragon: a wife should pay more attention to her husband’s inner world and take into account his capricious and picky character.
Ox - Rat: fighting in such a union is undesirable: a long confrontation will completely destroy the relationship, since a stubborn wife will not be able to overcome her pride.
Ox - Monkey: a man must realize that his wife is not as unpretentious as he is, and that she needs to create comfortable living conditions.
Bull - Dragon: a woman should not forget that her husband must be constantly consulted. Relationships are built on compromises, and stubbornness can ruin everything.

So: only that union in which the spouses’ types of thinking are mutually complementary can be called a spiritual marriage.
Thus, the will is complemented by mysticism, and logic is complemented by realism.
Rat - Rooster, Rat - Bull, Rat - Snake, Monkey - Rooster, Monkey - Bull, Dragon - Rooster, Dragon - Bull, Dragon - Snake. In this half, one marriage is missing; it has gone under the vector (Monkey - Snake). The other half has more holes. Horse - Cat, Horse - Goat, Tiger - Cat, Tiger - Boar, Dog - Cat, Dog - Boar, Dog - Goat. In this half there are two marriages missing (Horse - Boar and Tiger - Goat), it is clear that these are vector exceptions. Any other marriage, no matter how many spiritual insights, UFO flights, psychic breakthroughs and poltergeists it contains, cannot be called a spiritual marriage.

The commandments are: Strive to find an eternal friend, forget about the rest, love complexity, stop loving simplicity, communicate limitlessly, intrigue each other, have two separate careers, shake them up, but do not mix them, be liberated, think less about public institutions, communicate with God directly , build your life in a spiral and be above your circumstances. Now a little more detail.
a) The ideal situation for entering into a spiritual marriage is a feeling of unbearable loneliness. Only the one who carries within himself the fear of the end of his youth, the fear of the loss of friends and loved ones, the fear that children will grow up and run away, the fear of darkness and the abyss into which one cannot step without at least holding hands with someone, only he was finally ripe for spiritual marriage.
b) Protecting themselves from loneliness and anticipating the betrayal of friends, colleagues and other citizens, confessors must strike a preemptive blow and be the first to turn away from the world of people. You can say hello, talk, tell jokes, but at the same time realize that people are just a piece of decoration, and there are only two real characters in the play of life - spiritually interacting spouses. That’s why it’s so easy to communicate with other people, because they are just spectators and listeners, or maybe readers, but they cannot influence the real action, only two people decide everything.
c) Be wise, deep, do not look for simple paths and easy truths. Complicate where it is simple, muddy where it is transparent, pile up where it was spacious. This is your destiny. You are called to difficult routes, leave simple paths to other people, your path is not banal. Hence the very style of your communication, go from the opposite, you want to say “Yes!”, say “No!”, look for the black in white, look for the black in the villain, look for where he is kind in the hero, look for where he is mean in the hero. This is what Stanislavsky taught us.
d) Communicate limitlessly. Do not deny yourself the pleasure of turning any topic into a subject of great wisdom and philosophical research. Learn to listen to an opinion that is unpleasant and incomprehensible to you, find a symmetrical answer to it, and engage in long-term contact of tangential blows. But head-on collisions must be avoided. Spiritual marriage is not in a hurry, does not run anywhere, and therefore quick decisions, truths born in heated debates, are not needed here. Take your time, don’t butt heads, it’s not the truth that is needed in a spiritual marriage, but only the search for it, a joint path to this truth. And hence the favorite style of communication - one talks about one thing, the other about another. Questions remain unanswered, effects change with causes, up becomes down, right becomes left, and so on. The main thing is that this style does not anger your interlocutors, but amuses them.
e) Hence the main criterion for the vitality of a spiritual union - the spouses must be extremely interesting to each other. They are like strange little animals, like aliens. Unprecedented, incomprehensible, fascinating. Hence the conclusion - disguise yourself, do not help reveal you to the end, keep secrets, muddy the waters, cover your tracks. A transparent and clear person in a spiritual marriage will not last long. The ideal option for mutual alienation is great mastery in exactly what the spouse is most mediocre at. Mastery of something that is beyond your partner’s understanding is the path to maximum delight. And the state of creative enthusiasm in a spiritual marriage is a good thing, a necessary thing.
f) The unique skills of the spouses inevitably give rise to a system of two careers. But the trick is that each of the two careers is accomplished not on its own, but for the sake of an eternal friend. This is the uniqueness of a spiritual career; it is selfless, because its achievement is the delight and satisfaction of that only person for whose sake it is worth living and creating. So from one tandem four are born. It’s not so much two people interacting with each other, and not even so much two careers, as each spouse with someone else’s career. They kind of pull each other, in modern terms, they become producers for each other. This option would be ideal.
g) The fear of spiritual marriage as a kind of mental hospital, an asylum for the insane, a forge of all types of deviations and pathologies is completely unjustified. This is a marriage of the highest spiritual takeoff, an experiment of pure and selfless penetration beyond the horizon, beyond the line separating the temporary world from the eternal world. Well, if someone has not yet matured to understand the depths of the universe, then this is his problem. No one has yet proven that humanity must stop in its development, therefore, we must move forward, and there is only him ahead, a selfless, quiet and deep spiritual union, no matter how abnormal it may seem now, when viewed from the world of greed, aggression and cult individual achievements.
h) Those who have already decided for themselves that a spiritual marriage is a meeting of angels with wings, that everyone in it walks in soft slippers, and speaks only in a whisper, the author is forced to disappoint. The participants in the spiritual union are too wise and too deep to skim the surface of sanctimonious stereotypes and to abide by the rules of morality imposed on the plebeians. Confessors can do everything that their personal conscience allows them, not borrowed from the copybooks of lawyers and dogmatists, but suffered in the endless struggles of spirit and flesh. By the way, there has always been enough flesh in a spiritual marriage; this is not some kind of ethereal romantic union. This is the paradox of compensation. While the flesh is strong, it strives for romantic heights, but the almost disembodied spirit clings to the flesh with both hands.
i) Spiritual marriage, in its ideal version, should perform a miracle - reveal the line of truly useful interaction between the sexes. Flying through the romance of the superficial layer of external differences, making its way through the palisade of the patriarchal economic expediency of the division of labor, and finally slipping through the period of the war of the sexes, the spiritual sign demonstrates the main difference between the sexes. A man is a brilliant creator, a woman is an equally brilliant perceiver. Male creativity is always too independent, too unfounded, too arbitrary. A woman follows a longer, more ornate path, compares and assimilates other people’s things better and more objectively. In this sense, they are an ideal couple.
j) Marriage is strong in its achievements. In a spiritual marriage, these achievements lie in the unique path of coexistence of two careers. No one will ever come up with such perfect co-authorship as in spiritual marriage. If there is at least something in the world that exists at the intersection of two sciences, two arts, two sides of existence, then the highest success should be achieved there by a man and a woman intertwined either with their bodies, or their minds, or their souls. The dark and dense soul is male, the light and loose soul is female.
k) By strengthening their individualities in spiritual marriage, spouses receive complete emancipation in relation to society. Thus, this marriage is inherently antisocial. A romantic marriage must give its beauty to society, a patriarchal marriage must give its children to society, an equal marriage must give its energy and its aggression to society. Spiritual marriage owes nothing to society - it is the basis of a future anarchist-individualist society. Well, until the bright future has arrived, do not hesitate to pay less attention to politicians, officials, governments, presidents, states of all types, all kinds of parties, scientific meetings, societies, communities, academies, and so on and so forth...
m) Remember the fairy tale about the “white bull”. This is what spiritual marriage is about. There is movement in marriage, but this movement goes in a spiral, with endless turns in the same circles. Such a movement is in harmony with the essence of marriage, in which nothing is ever agreed upon to the end, where everything is confused, it is not clear where not a single dot is placed, and commas are almost invisible. Therefore, forward - to what is behind or back - to what is in front. Therefore, never give up, there are no reasons that forbid, in case of inconsistency, going to one more circle, then another, another and another... So: the romantic is always unchanged, the equal is always changing, the patriarchal is in gradual deterioration, but the spiritual , thanks to its spiral rise should always improve. This is exactly what the spiral is for. Each topic of marriage should be revised, improved and strengthened from time to time. Just take your time, don’t rush anywhere.
m) Spiritual marriage is the only one of the balanced ones (vector marriage does not count), in which a person “sails away” from his sign. Anyone who possessed a strong-willed type of thinking gradually shifts towards a mystical worldview. The mystic, thanks to whom this advancement took place, in turn moves forward into the element of will. The interaction between the logical and realistic elements is similar. Thus, a person, through unstoppable work and powerful marital interaction, not only changes his destiny, but also transforms what was given to him from birth - his sign.
o) At some stage, spiritual marriage apparently requires constant communication. However, if the “capture” of souls has occurred, then does it really matter whether the spouses are nearby or not? In this, like many other, senses, spiritual marriage is the arithmetic mean of romantic and equal unions. The romantic demanded constant separation, the equal demanded constant contact, therefore, the spiritual demanded something in between. For example, constant contact in conditions of separation, or contactless stay nearby. Most likely, we are talking about a continuous alternation of separations and meetings, approaches and distances. A spiritual marriage should sway.
o) Spiritual marriage is called spiritual because, despite its antisocial and antisocial nature, it is as close as possible to the religious understanding of marriage. There is no chatter about eternal love, no ascetic service, no battle for the cause of the Lord. But there is a real presence of divine forces, which, in fact, are released at the moment the signs descend from their places. The sign is like a cork closing a bottle. The less the cork is ground in, the faster the gin (spirit) living in the bottle begins to evaporate. In a vector marriage, the bottle opens like champagne, with a crash and foam. In a spiritual marriage, the plug is slowly removed.
p) Spiritual marriage experiences antagonism to other marriages less than others. From his height he looks favorably on all other marriages. For him, these are all games, but quite funny ones. It’s fun to play at romance, it’s fun to play at patriarchal relationships, but you can, however, arrange a fight and social competition in the manner of an equal union. Well, when you get tired of all this, you can return to a spiritual union. In this sense, spiritual marriage is the only synthetic one.

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The four chapters in this part talk about alliances where:

1) husband - Rat, Monkey, Dragon,
wife - Rooster, Snake, Bull;
2) husband - Cat, Boar, Goat,
wife - Horse, Tiger, Dog;
3) husband - Horse, Tiger, Dog,
wife - Cat, Boar, Goat;
4) husband - Rooster, Snake, Bull,
wife - Rat, Monkey, Dragon.
This marriage is a hymn to the human spirit, a hymn to the human mind. The path of spouses to each other in such a union is the most difficult. It is difficult for them to find a common language. It is also difficult for them to find unity in the sphere of reason - the types of thinking are different. And yet, the highest reward awaits the one who decides on such a marriage and is able to do colossal spiritual work in search of community. None of the three previous types of marriage is able to bring the high harmony that such a union gives.
The deepest joys of this marriage are the reward for selflessness, for renunciation of the world. Only spouses who are maximally absorbed in each other will be able to solve the most difficult problems of a spiritual union.

ABSOLUTE MARRIAGE
(Husband: Rat, Monkey, Dragon; wife: Rooster, Snake, Ox)
Examples: D. Ya. Mamin-Sibiryak - M. M. Abramova (Rat - Bull),
Peter III - Catherine II (Monkey - Rooster),
A. A. Blok - L. D. Mendeleev (Dragon - Snake),
A. I. Herzen - Ya. L. Herzen (Monkey - Bull),
J. Lennon - J. Ono (Dragon - Rooster),
F. Fellini -D. Mazina (Monkey - Rooster),
R. K Shchedrin -M. M. Plisetskaya (Monkey - Bull),
S. G. Volkonsky - M. N. Volkonskaya (Monkey - Bull),
M. A. Fonvizin - Ya. D Fonvizin (Monkey - Bull).
Of course, the title of our chapter is quite arbitrary. But even at the beginning of work on the marriage theory, these marriages were striking for their monolithic nature, the inseparability of spouses so different in their characteristics. After all, both are sources of love and will, but of two opposite types, and therefore, instead of a head-on collision, a spiritual merger occurs, which does not exist in any of the three remaining spiritual marriages. The connection is so strong that it is as if the people themselves do not exist, but only marriage. If an analogy from chemistry is appropriate, then this marriage is like a nitrogen molecule with a triple bond.
In such a union, everything external and non-spiritual falls away like husks. Neither age, nor appearance, nor money matter. We can say that people have only one essence left, or they form a new quality, and the image, what we call language, the sign characteristic that we inherited from our animal analogues, seems to dissolve. Therefore, additional characteristics of marriages are practically not needed.
But even the absoluteness of this marriage, the lucky star of the birth signs of both spouses do not allow one to step over the main law of the union - the need for painstaking and long spiritual work for mutual fusion. This is a two-way traffic, and the desire of one is not enough here.
Let's return to the work of the soul, to the search for spiritual unity. It’s easy to start on the path, but the path itself is difficult if you have the mindset of independence, of the integrity of your personality, and young age can also be a hindrance.
The legendary marriage of film director Federico Fellini and actress Giulietta Masina.
"In the world of cinema, directors and actresses often love each other. But then, most often, separation occurs. Love stories, even the most beautiful ones, come to an end; they become memories. But the love story of Juliet and Federico has been going on for almost half a century."
It began, as usually happens in these unions, with a correspondence acquaintance with each other’s work, and continued with non-stop joint creativity, in which it is already difficult to separate them from each other. The interviewer was amazed that "during the conversation, Federico called her at least four times in total just to hear her voice..."
On the one hand, the spouses form a single whole - love helps them in this, on the other hand, they are not burdened by dependence on each other, they are only happy about it.
When the correspondent asked how Shchedrin felt about the fact that in some circles he was called Maya Plisetskaya’s husband, he replied that in other circles Plisetskaya was called Shchedrin’s wife.
Yes, the division of spheres of influence in this marriage occurs painlessly, even if the spouses are united by a common cause. In addition, the spheres of application of the true abilities of spouses have very clear boundaries: love, will. Isn’t it at all like a mixture of intuition and logic, or a combination of the cold sexual insight of a wife and the ardent romantic love of her husband, her romantic will with his rational will.
Love in this marriage is led by the husband. Men of the Rat, Monkey, and Dragon signs have a brilliant understanding of the psychology of women.

MARRIAGE 109. He is a Rat, she is a Rooster
Spouses are open signs. Their desire to embrace the immensity is unlikely to play a positive role in marriage. One can act in the national arena only when internal contact has been established. Also, there is no need to follow the path of least resistance and satisfy your desire for simplicity in everything. Spiritual relationships are always high style.

The activity of the wife and the thriftiness of the husband are perfectly combined in this marriage.

MARRIAGE 110. HE is a Rat, she is a Snake
Here, the quality of a spiritual marriage will be determined by the wife, her innate aristocracy and aesthetic taste. The abundance of the husband's friendly contacts will interfere with this union. It is better for a husband to give his energy to his family.

He should watch his behavior: coldness and rudeness on his part will not strengthen the family. We must also remember that the Rat’s excessive fussiness and passion for variety are intolerable for the Snake, which needs calm and a leisurely lifestyle.

MARRIAGE 111. He is a Rat, she is a Bull
Community of psychology. Ruthlessness towards yourself, a willingness to break your character is a plus, but ruthlessness towards each other is not necessary. It is better for you to avoid heated quarrels. Spouses are able to withstand a long confrontation, but during this time spiritual contact may disappear, and everything will have to start all over again.

The wife is a very family-oriented sign, but the husband has a lot of work to do on himself. But every cloud has a silver lining, he will be able to expand the scope of those stereotypes in which the wife is captive.

MARRIAGE 112. HE is a Monkey, she is a Rooster
Spouses are very active people, although the husband may hide his abilities. The basis for unity is large: if it does not become a common profession, then it will be found within the family - a common hobby, craft, hobby, etc. The husband will give it an aesthetic beginning, the wife will take care of its development.

It is better for the spouse to forget about her own career and a huge circle of acquaintances. She must devote herself to her family. A husband should not isolate himself.

MARRIAGE 113. HE is a Monkey, she is a Snake
The vector ring and the esotericism of spouses as the ability to penetrate someone else’s personality play a cruel joke here. There is no need to penetrate anywhere, you are already a single whole, the depth of spiritual searches can deprive you of vitality, but let’s hope that the sentimental wife will take pity on her husband, and an understanding of female psychology will not allow him to make mistakes that are fatal for the servant.

In this marriage it is better to keep to yourself. A rich inner world is a magnificent refuge from vector passions.

MARRIAGE 114. He is a Monkey, she is a Bull
The wife's orthodox desire to strengthen the marriage is a good basis for any union. However, there are too many "buts" here. Will a wife be able to discern his loving soul behind her husband’s external strangeness, especially since he is usually captured by generally accepted stereotypes? Will she be able to go with him into its strange depths? And will her husband open up completely to her? The main thing is her persistence and tact. But she usually lacks tact.

MARRIAGE 115. HE is a Dragon, she is a Rooster
Double romanticism is always the basis for endless searches in the spiritual field. The most important thing is not to lose reasonable contact with the emotions that such a combination of signs causes. The spouses are quite stubborn and find it difficult to compromise.

The husband is a supporter of order, nepotism and constancy. The wife has a lot of work to do to destroy her husband’s standard view of life, and she will also have to fight the simplicity inherent in her own character. This is where the husband comes to the rescue with his daydreaming and detachment from the world. We wish the spouses good luck.

MARRIAGE 116. HE is a Dragon, she is a Snake
Simplicity does not threaten their union. This is guaranteed by the dreaminess and isolation from life of the husband and the aristocratism of the wife. The spouses almost instantly become isolated on each other and begin to live in a world of their own passions. There is no doubt about their depth and transformative power.

Just at the beginning of your journey, do not clip your wings with excessive attention to the material side of life. Your contact will not disappear, but it will become poorer.

MARRIAGE 117. He is a Dragon, she is a Bull
Orthodox marriage, often it is realized only in the plane of building a family, material wealth, and raising children. Don’t impoverish your life, look beyond the generally accepted, there are great opportunities in your union. This is one of the most favorable marriages for an Ox woman: the husband calmly reacts to her straightforwardness, stubbornness, even rudeness. Let the wife appreciate such a husband.

The Dragon husband does not like to quarrel and is therefore prone to compromise.

INTELLECTUAL MARRIAGE
(Husband: Cat, Boar, Goat; wife: Horse, Tiger, Dog)
The titles we give to the chapters are quite arbitrary. The title of this chapter merely indicates one of many ways to find commonality. After all, in the end, the wife’s powerful mind and the husband’s deep understanding of life should merge here.

Examples: S. A. Yesenin - 3. N. Reich (Goat - Horse),
G. Alexandrov - L. Orlova (Cat - Tiger),
V. Menshov - V. Alentova (Cat - Horse),
L. D. Trotsky - Ya. I. Sedova-Trotskaya (Cat - Horse),
F. Sinatra -A. Gardner (Cat - Dog),
F. Schiller - S. Schiller (Cat - Dog),
F. I. Tyutchev - E. A. Denisyeva (Boar - Dog).
Spiritual marriage is always difficult, but in this case the situation is many times complicated by the fact that there are no powerful energy sources - will and love. Only the mind controls the actions of the spouses. In addition, women of the years of the Horse, Tiger, and Dog, despite their powerful intellect, first of all strive to realize themselves as a wife-comrade-in-arms, a wife-assistant, and not an equal intellectual partner.
Interest in the husband's business should become only the first step for the wife, and not an end in itself, because then the realization begins not of an intellectual union, but of a primitive marriage. Spouses miss their blue bird and try to find intellectual unity in everyday problems, lowering the level of their relationship.
There are more than enough obstacles in such a marriage. Much can be spoiled by the image of a strong, strong-willed personality that the women of this trio carry. The desire to subjugate your husband and curb him will not lead to good. Only by the work of the mind, by the endless search for semantic parallels, can one go through the difficult path to intellectual kinship.
We must also remember that the path to harmony of mind in this marriage lies on the combat plane. And strangely enough, scandals and thunderstorms in family relationships will only strengthen the union, but only if all the fighting energy of the husband and wife is directed into the area of intellect, and not everyday life.

MARRIAGE 118. He is a Cat, she is a Horse
Marriage of open signs. This is an additional factor in building relationships. If difficulties arise, listen to your friends, you will feel better, unnecessary emotions will go away. But at the same time, don’t overdo it when communicating with friends.
There is quite a lot of romanticism in the family: a very active wife is complemented by a husband - a contemplative of contemplators. If the husband’s position is very “sofa-like,” conflicts may arise. Let him overcome himself and help his wife in everything. And again: be afraid of everyday life, you have a tendency to simplify everything.

MARRIAGE 119. He is a Cat, she is a Tiger
Simplicity does not threaten this marriage. The contemplative husband is complemented by a dreamy wife. The sophistication of the spouses will help them in communication. The wife's aristocracy gives respectability to the husband.
There is another danger here - you can fly too far in your dreams, and hated life and attempts to blame it on each other will cause a negative reaction in both. The advice is still the same - difficulties must be overcome together.

MARRIAGE 120. He is a Cat, she is a Dog
The Dog woman’s fixation on everyday problems can direct the marriage in the wrong direction. The contemplative husband will not interfere with anything, but one day he will get up and leave, since the “nest” and everyday comfort will not keep him in a spiritual union.
The main thing is to focus on each other. The wife should calm down and not grab onto everything at once.

MARRIAGE 121. He is a Boar, she is a Horse
There is no time for spiritual searches here, because the vector ring interferes. It twists almost instantly and very powerfully: the fiery passions of the wife clash with the recklessness of the husband. Oddly enough, the wife-housewife may not be able to withstand all this round dance faster than her husband. Great passions will lead to great disappointments. Be calm - this is advice primarily to the wife. Your husband can only handle so much.

MARRIAGE 122. He is a Pig, she is a Tiger
Spouses are initially aimed at spiritual quests. They are helped in this by their innate aristocracy, admiration for the individual, etc. The main thing is that all these qualities are directed towards each other, and not inside themselves.
A wife should not get hung up on domestic problems. Although your husband is an aristocrat, he is at the same time a very unpretentious person. Spend your time not on cooking, but on communicating with your spouse.
A husband should not abuse his wife’s patience and burden her with the burden of everyday life. Everything will come back to you a hundredfold in the form of a perfectly organized attack.

MARRIAGE 123. He is a Pig, she is a Dog
Spouses must do a lot of work on themselves in order to avoid temptations: for the Pig - to focus on their own interests, for the Dog - on the idea of family, everyday life or a social career instead of focusing on their own husband.
Family standards are not for such a man; he wants variety and surprises. The combination of such qualities in a husband and rich spiritual talent in a wife will become a guiding thread in marriage.
Let the wife not pay attention to some coldness of her husband, take advantage of the other side of this quality: there is no more unpretentious sign than the Pig.

MARRIAGE 124. He is a Goat, she is a Horse
The danger is the same. An energetic wife may not hear her inner voice and will begin to build a “nest” instead of encouraging her husband to spiritual unity. Marriages that develop according to this scenario usually break up.
The sensitivity of both spouses does not make the situation any easier. Any showdown causes such a flow of emotions and is such a blow to the psyche that spiritual unity can be destroyed to the ground. It’s better to take care of each other and solve everything with a cool head.

MARRIAGE 125. He is a Goat, she is a Tiger
Vector ring, here spiritual unity is an application to the passions of this couple. From love to hate... Admiration for the wife and the inability to withstand her pressure for long. The compassionate soul of a husband, like a clear barometer, shows how a vector marriage is developing. How long will he stand it, will he wear himself out, and maybe even bore his wife. In any case, the loss of a family is a disaster for both. Be carefull.

MARRIAGE 126. He is a Goat, she is a Dog
Orthodox marriage. Spouses are supporters of constancy in feelings and strength in relationships. This family will fall apart only in extreme circumstances. The danger is different: spouses are lovers of standards in everything, and spiritual quests deny any standards. Spouses can lower the level of their relationship, spiritualize everyday life, and not improve the soul.
Stubbornness - an innate trait of all orthodox signs - does not contribute to deepening contact. Learn to compromise.

PHILOSOPHICAL MARRIAGE
(Husband: Horse, Tiger, Dog; wife: Cat, Boar, Goat)
Examples: J. K. Roerich - E. I. Roerich (Dog - Cat),
Pavel I-Maria Fedorovna (Dog - Cat),
A. Mitskevich - K. Pavlova (Horse - Cat),
I. A. Bunin - E. Fechner (Horse - Goat),
G. Ivanov - I. Odoevtseva (Horse - Goat),
S. Gerasimov - T. Makarova (Horse - Goat),
G. Panfilov - I. Churikova (Dog - Goat).
The husband's romantic passion is blind, but in union with his wife, for whom there are no secrets in the love sphere, and he begins to little by little understand this area of feelings that is mysterious to him.
Let us remember what the love insight of these women means. Actress I. Alferova (Cat): “For example, I know - I can be different, I will find everything in myself, I will adapt, just tell me what you want to see me like.”
If so, then the romantic image of a beloved, which strong-willed men create, in this marriage may become not an illusion, but a reality, since the wife is able to fill the romantic image with life. And yet, the romanticization of love and the blindness that accompanies it haunts men for a long time.
Mutual romanticism, the love of a husband is only the beginning of a long path of spiritual improvement and constant work on oneself. Not everyone is given such powers, not everyone wants to give up their independence and independence. Often romantic feelings last longer than the union itself.
Unity is the strength of this marriage, but when it disappears, the spouses can become irreconcilable enemies.

MARRIAGE 127. He is a Horse, she is a Cat
The advantage of marriage is the openness of the spouses. With all the difficulties, go to people. An outside analysis will greatly help you understand what the two of you did not understand.
The husband needs to get rid of house-building habits and get involved in the household. Your wife will never be able to fully devote herself to the kitchen. Diktat in relation to female Cats is generally not appropriate.
The wife should remember that she will achieve everything if she turns to her husband’s sensitive heart.

MARRIAGE 128. He is a Horse, she is a Boar
A vector ring interferes with spiritual quests, which will speed up mutual penetration, but will make marriage a very risky undertaking. An energetic and focused husband will try to remake and stir up his companion. Mixed with her romantic feeling is the servant’s resigned admiration for the master. How long will she stand all this? The ability to be ruthless with herself will probably help her.
And yet, of the vector unions, this is not the most disastrous option.

MARRIAGE 129. He is a Horse, she is a Goat
Spouses are sensitive and easily vulnerable people. First of all, be attentive to your life partner, and not to yourself. Every quarrel will be a shock for you. Any emotions violate spiritual unity.
An obstacle can be the husband’s excessive openness and hospitality, on the one hand, and the wife’s stubbornness and capriciousness, on the other. It is important to remember that in this marriage all obstacles can be overcome; over time, your habits must change.

MARRIAGE 130. He is a Tiger, she is a Cat
Spiritual quests have something to rely on here; the spouses belong to take-off signs that can materialize the word.
The main thing is not to reduce this high style of relationship to banal everyday collisions: take-off signs do not like to do housework. The husband must forget about housebuilding and help his wife in everything.

The wife should reduce her circle of acquaintances and focus on her husband. Only there will you avoid his terrible jealousy.

MARRIAGE 131. He is a Tiger, she is a Pig
Both spouses are aesthetic signs. This is an excellent additional quality for spiritual quests. The main thing is that the priority of one’s own personality does not take precedence over spiritual unity.
Much depends on the husband, since the Pig woman can exist in a huge range of life options. It is in his power to make her prefer a spiritual orientation.
There should be no problems with everyday life. The wife simply will not notice that her husband has withdrawn from household chores.

MARRIAGE 132. He is a Tiger, she is a Goat
Once again, the vector ring rules the roost. And a catastrophe may become inevitable, despite the fact that the spouses are perfectly suited to each other: a gentle, sexy, family wife and a loving, jealous husband. The pressure of the owner-husband can be excessive - a sensitive wife is unlikely to withstand it. And her husband will be perplexed by her constant hysterics. What can you wish for? As always in a vector marriage - don’t breathe, freeze...

MARRIAGE 133. He is a Dog, she is a Cat
The marriage is illuminated by the name of the Roerichs. For this alone, it is worth trying to find ways to get closer. It seems that the Dog man’s desire for constancy in relationships, his hard work and the loving wisdom of his wife will make the path of spiritual quest easier. The wife's openness will give her husband additional confidence in his abilities. But the mutual pessimism of the spouses will not make it easier for them to work on spiritual unity. Try to control yourself.
Marriage is very common and almost always successful.

MARRIAGE 134. He is a Dog, she is a Boar
There are not many additional incentives for getting closer, but there is no need to be sad. The optimism of the Pig woman will suppress the eternal melancholy of the Dog man. He will no longer waste his energy on emotional experiences, but will get down to specific business.
The family orientation inherent in the character of the husband and the closeness (esotericism) of the wife play into the hands of the stability of the process of spiritual unity. A wife can exist in a huge range of life options - a lot depends on the husband. He must be persistent in his desire to isolate himself from the world.
The hard work of the Dog and the unpretentiousness of the Pig make it possible not to focus on everyday life.

MARRIAGE 135. He is a Dog, she is a Goat
Both spouses are orthodox, that is, both are stubborn - this is a minus, and both are sensitive to the family - this is a plus. The spouses will not run away at the first difficulties, but the process of spiritual interpenetration will be intermittent. We must learn to compromise.
The main thing is not to reduce spiritual union to everyday life. Spouses can overdo it with housekeeping and at one point find themselves broke: they have a family, but no spirituality.
The wife should know that her tears and whims will not achieve their goal. The husband will not understand her emotions, although he will regret it.

PASSIONATE MARRIAGE
(Husband: Rooster, Snake, Ox; wife: Rat, Monkey, Dragon).
Examples: S. Ya. Efron - M. I. Tsvetaeva (Snake - Dragon),
L. Aragon - E. Triolet (Rooster - Monkey),
M. V. Voynich - 3. L. Voynich (Bull - Rat),
A. V. Sukhovo-Kobylin - Y. K Naryshkina (Bull - Rat),
Y. M. Sverdlov -K. T. Novgorodtseva-Sverdlova (Rooster-Rat),
B. Ya. Bryusov - Ya I. Petrovskaya (Rooster - Monkey).
Passionate marriage - such a definition is very difficult to connect with the main task of this type of marriage: the search for spiritual unity. Yes, it is in this union that the spouses follow the most difficult and complex path to the heights of spiritual unity. After all, here the Knight and the Beauty meet (remember the marriage characteristics of the signs). Passion not only accompanies these unions, but is an integral part of the relationship. There is no question of finding out the meaning of this, searching for reasonable compromises, or even making sense here, when there is literally a fire burning in the blood. But neither spouse possesses the energy of love and will, and in the end the passion passes. This is where, it would seem, we can engage in spiritual interpenetration, but what about mutual disappointment and resentment? Moreover, spiritual quests take place in the combat area.
Yes, the spirituality of this union is also born in constant struggle. The type of fight is not important. It can be revolutionary, as in the Sverdlov family, or any other - the main thing is that it is joint.
Yes, spouses experience a deep, romantic, bright feeling that lifts them above themselves, changes them, “finishes” them. Therefore, the grief from the loss of not just a loved one, but a part of one’s personality is not only deep, but also limitless.
Passion, because it is what makes this union so difficult. Like no other, it is full of errors and illusions.
Yes, such a connection requires a person without reserve.

MARRIAGE 136. He is a Rooster, she is a Rat
In society, in public, this union is formed, which is characterized by ideological struggle and fire of passions. The Rat woman cannot do without admirers; the Rooster man will win her back from the whole world. The main thing is not to lose your head in this process, not to get lost in the sea of life.
The husband's activity will create excellent material security for his wife. She, having devoted herself only to him, will free him from complexes and doubts on any occasion. Spouses should not transfer their relationship only into economic channels. We must overcome our innate inclinations and strive for high things.

MARRIAGE 137. He is a Rooster, she is a Monkey
The wife is responsible for the high level of relationships in marriage. But if the union of two specific people results in a purely business enterprise, that’s also not bad.
The wisdom and goodwill of the Monkey woman guarantee that this marriage will not be overwhelmed by passions and the path of spiritual unity will be completed to the end.
For such active people, everyday life will not become a stumbling block in their spiritual quest. They won't notice him.

MARRIAGE 138. He is a Rooster, she is a Dragon
In this marriage, in addition to spiritual communication, the romantic wave is very strong. The main thing is to turn these emotions for the benefit of spiritual unity. Let the husband fall in love with his wife’s dreaminess and slowness, and let her love his activity. These qualities of a husband will help overcome everyday difficulties.
A lot of spiritual work is required from the wife: there is no need to confine yourself to generally accepted standards, follow your husband, adopt from him the breadth of coverage of any problem.

MARRIAGE 139. He is a Snake, she is a Rat
It is not easy for a wise and cold Snake man to be caught in romantic feelings, but the Rat, if he wants, can be irresistible in his charm. He, sensitive and sexy, will win her and take her away from all her admirers.
The husband will be delighted by the breadth of his wife’s soul, she will find attractive features in his aristocracy. The spiritual level will be supported by the husband in this marriage. The main thing is not to fall from the spiritual level to the everyday level.
A wife should not forget about her husband’s sensitive soul, and he should forgive her for some rudeness. Over time, he will find attractive features in her behavior.

MARRIAGE 140. He is a Snake, she is a Monkey
Be careful: vector marriage, it’s as if you no longer exist, you are a single being. The esotericist’s ability to penetrate someone else’s soul reaches its maximum. A closed sign works in one direction: forgetting about his personality, he lives differently. Spiritual communication will be at its best, but will the spouses withstand the energy costs? Oddly enough, the sensitive husband may not be the first to stand it... He is too kind a master, but if the wife takes on all the hardships of everyday life and maintains a high level of communication, then the marriage can drag on for quite a long time.

MARRIAGE 141. He is a Snake, she is a Dragon
The wife is very attractive, the Snake man is an esthete. Her sign is family-oriented, and his is one that gets tired quickly and is quite pampered. My husband needs the warmth of home. All this contributes to the fact that the spouses soon become isolated in their home and in each other. There is only one danger - to delve too deeply into the everyday side of life and forget about poetry, painting, and religious quests.
A wife needs to pay more attention to her husband’s inner world, otherwise he will withdraw into himself and spiritual unity will not work. The husband should appreciate his wife’s unobtrusive optimism, which will help him cope with depression.

MARRIAGE 142. He is an Ox, she is a Rat
Fighting in this alliance is undesirable. Spouses can withstand a long confrontation, but at the same time completely eliminate spiritual interpenetration.
A compromise must be reached between the orthodoxy of the husband and the breadth of interests of the wife. There is a huge base for collaboration here.
Both spouses are unpretentious, and if they are busy with something interesting, they generally do not pay attention to food, sleep and similar little things.

MARRIAGE 143. He is an Ox, she is a Monkey
Bulls are not signs of increased spirituality; the main thing for them is action. Let the wife begin to re-educate her husband. This is a great way to show your innate esoteric abilities.
The husband should know that his wife is not as unpretentious a person as he is. She needs comfort.
The specificity of the Monkey's thinking goes well with the hard work of the Ox. But, to put it mildly, the husband’s lack of sensitivity hurts the wife’s aristocratic soul. For family happiness, a husband needs to become a little more sentimental.

MARRIAGE 144. He is an Ox, she is a Dragon
Both spouses have a craving for family and constancy. The main thing is to quickly get through the family stage and engage in knowledge of the soul. Here the wife will play the first violin with her ambition and dreams, the husband must give activity to this process.
Spiritual relationships are built on compromise, and the mutual stubbornness of two orthodoxies can complicate mutual penetration.
The difficulty is that the Ox is an insensitive sign, and a wife, while pursuing her dreams, may forget that she must constantly consult with her husband. She must remember: every day and hour she must break through his armor.

Liz,
I got up the courage to write about marriage))
Undoubtedly, I agree, as the author points out, such relationships are indeed not simple.
I wrote somewhere earlier here that when entering into this relationship I thought, understood, realized that this was an extremely difficult relationship for me, just like the martyr.
Much of what is listed point by point actually takes place, also the fact that, nevertheless, they slightly reek of a hospital))
These are relationships that include all other types, including at some points a vector. Something in between.
And this is important, it is also important to maintain some average level of each of... because if something starts to sag, it immediately “flies in the atmosphere”))

To a greater extent, these points that we have:
- constant contact in conditions of separation, or contactless stay nearby. Most likely, we are talking about a continuous alternation of separations and meetings, approaches and distances.
- by strengthening their individuality in spiritual marriage, spouses receive complete emancipation in relation to society.
- achievements lie on a unique path of coexistence of two careers. But the trick is that each of the two careers is accomplished not on its own, but for the sake of an eternal friend.
- male creativity is always too independent, too unfounded, too arbitrary. A woman follows a longer, more ornate path, compares and assimilates other people’s things better and more objectively.
- there is no chatter about eternal love, no ascetic service, no battle for the cause of the Lord.
- sanctimonious stereotypes, observe the rules of morality imposed on the plebeians. Confessors can do everything that their personal conscience allows them, not borrowed from the copybooks of lawyers and dogmatists, but suffered in the endless struggles of spirit and flesh. By the way, there was always enough flesh in a spiritual marriage.
- people are just a piece of decoration, and there are only two real characters in the play of life - spiritually interacting spouses. That’s why it’s so easy to communicate with other people, because they are just spectators and listeners, or maybe readers, but they cannot influence the real action, only two people decide everything.
- we complicate where it is simple, we muddy where it is transparent, we pile up complex routes where there was room, we leave simple paths to other people.
- we learned to listen to an opinion that is unpleasant and incomprehensible to us, to find a symmetrical answer to it and to enter into long-term contact of tangential blows.
- hence the favorite style of communication - one talks about one thing, the other about another. Questions remain unanswered, effects change with causes, up becomes down, right becomes left, and so on.))) indeed, like unknown animals, aliens))
My husband immediately has a ticker on his forehead - urgently inclusive transliteration)))

Well, for now, for us, much less often, but still present - head-on collisions, of course brutal, and all-round defense, it happens for several months, there are no winners, no losers, hence the breakdown of one’s individuality, uncompromisingness goes away, and uncertain steps towards compromise are born..

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The commandments are: yearn to find an eternal friend, forget about the rest, love complexity, stop loving simplicity, communicate limitlessly, intrigue each other, have two separate careers, shake them up, but don’t mix them, be liberated, think less about public institutions, communicate with God directly, build a life spiral and rise above the circumstances. Now a little more detail.

b) Protecting against loneliness and anticipating the betrayal of friends, colleagues and other citizens, confessors must strike a preemptive strike and be the first to turn away from the world of people. You can greet, talk, tell jokes, but at the same time realize that people are just a piece of decoration, and there are only two real characters in the play of life - spiritually interacting spouses. That’s why it’s so easy to communicate with other people, because they are just spectators and listeners, or maybe readers, but they cannot influence the real action, only two people decide everything.

c) Be wise, deep, do not look for simple paths and easy truths. Complicate where it is simple, muddy where it is transparent, pile up where it was spacious. This is your destiny. You are called to difficult routes, leave simple paths to other people, your path is not banal. Hence the very style of your communication, go from the opposite, you want to say “Yes!” - say “No!”, look for the black in the white, look for the good in the villain, look for the mean in the hero. This is what Stanislavsky taught us.

d) Communicate limitlessly. Do not deny yourself the pleasure of turning any topic into a subject of great wisdom and philosophical research. Learn to listen to an opinion that is unpleasant and incomprehensible to you, find a symmetrical answer to it, and engage in long-term contact of tangential blows. But head-on collisions must be avoided. Spiritual marriage is not in a hurry, does not run anywhere, and therefore quick decisions, truths born in heated debates are not needed here. Take your time, don’t butt heads, it’s not the truth that is needed in a spiritual marriage, but only the search for it, a joint path to this truth. And hence the favorite style of communication - one talks about one thing, the other about another. Questions remain unanswered, effects change with causes, up becomes down, right becomes left, and so on. The main thing is that this style does not anger your interlocutors, but amuses them.

f) The unique skills of the spouses inevitably give rise to a system of two careers. But the trick is that each of the two careers is not accomplished on its own, but for the sake of an eternal friend. This is the uniqueness of a spiritual career; it is selfless, because its achievement is the delight and satisfaction of that only person for whose sake it is worth living and creating. So from one tandem four are born. It’s not so much two people interacting with each other, and not even so much two careers, as each spouse with someone else’s career. They kind of pull each other, in modern terms, they become producers for each other. This option would be ideal.

g) Fear of spiritual marriage as a kind of mental hospital, an asylum for the insane, a forge of all types of deviations and pathologies is completely unjustified. This is a marriage of the highest spiritual takeoff, an experiment of pure and selfless penetration beyond the horizon, beyond the line separating the temporary world from the eternal world. Well, if someone has not yet matured to understand the depths of the universe, then this is his problem. No one has yet proven that humanity must stop in its development, therefore, we must move forward, and there is only him ahead, a selfless, quiet and deep spiritual union, no matter how abnormal it may seem now, when viewed from the world of greed, aggression and cult individual achievements.

h) Those who have already decided for themselves that a spiritual marriage is a meeting of angels with wings, that everyone in it walks in soft slippers and speaks only in a whisper, the author is forced to disappoint. The participants in the spiritual union are too wise and too deep to skim the surface of sanctimonious stereotypes and to abide by the rules of morality imposed on the plebeians. Confessors can do everything that their personal conscience allows them, not borrowed from the copybooks of lawyers and dogmatists, but suffered in the endless struggles of spirit and flesh. By the way, there has always been enough flesh in a spiritual marriage; this is not some kind of ethereal romantic union. This is the paradox of compensation. While the flesh is strong, it strives for romantic heights, but the almost disembodied spirit clings to the flesh with both hands.

i) Spiritual marriage, in its ideal version, should perform a miracle - reveal a line of truly useful interaction between the sexes. Flying through the romance of the superficial layer of external differences, making its way through the palisade of the patriarchal economic expediency of the division of labor, and finally slipping through the period of the war of the sexes, the spiritual sign demonstrates the main difference between the sexes. A man is a brilliant creator, a woman is an equally brilliant perceiver. Male creativity is always too independent, too unreasonable, too arbitrary. A woman follows a longer, more ornate path, compares and assimilates other people’s things better and more objectively. In this sense, they are an ideal couple.

j) Marriage is strong in its achievements. In a spiritual marriage, these achievements lie in the unique path of coexistence of two careers. No one will ever come up with such perfect co-authorship as in spiritual marriage. If there is at least something in the world that exists at the junction of two sciences, two arts, two sides of existence, then the highest success should be achieved there by a man and a woman, intertwined either with their bodies, or their minds, or their souls. The dark and dense soul is male, the light and loose soul is female.

m) Remember the fairy tale about the “white bull”. This is what spiritual marriage is about. There is movement in marriage, but this movement goes in a spiral, with endless turns in the same circles. Such a movement is in harmony with the essence of marriage, in which nothing is ever agreed upon to the end, where everything is confused, it is not clear where not a single dot is placed, and commas are almost invisible. Therefore, forward - to what is behind or back - to what is in front. Therefore, never give up, there are no reasons that prohibit, in case of inconsistency, going to one more round, then another, another and another... So: a romantic marriage is always unchanged, an equal one is always changing, a patriarchal one is in gradual deterioration, well the spiritual, through its spiral ascent, must always improve. This is exactly what the spiral is for. Each topic of marriage should be revised, improved and strengthened from time to time. Just take your time, don’t rush anywhere.

o) At some stage, spiritual marriage apparently requires constant communication. However, if the “capture” of souls has occurred, then is it really important whether the spouses are nearby or not? In this, as in many others, spiritual marriage is the arithmetic mean of romantic and equal unions. The romantic demanded constant separation, the equal demanded constant contact, therefore, the spiritual demanded something in between. For example, constant contact in conditions of separation, or contactless stay nearby. Most likely, we are talking about a continuous alternation of separations and meetings, approaches and distances. A spiritual marriage should sway.

n) Spiritual marriage is called spiritual because, despite its antisocial and antisocial nature, it is as close as possible to the religious understanding of marriage. There is no chatter about eternal love, no ascetic service, no battle for the cause of the Lord. But there is a real presence of divine forces, which, in fact, are released at the moment the signs descend from their places. The sign is like a cork closing a bottle. The less the cork is ground in, the faster the gin/spirit living in the bottle begins to evaporate. In a vector marriage, the bottle opens like champagne, with a crash and foam. In a spiritual marriage, the plug is slowly removed.

Futurology of marriage

To understand the meaning of spiritual marriage, it is necessary to evaluate the general evolutionary process of the institution of marriage, to understand where this seemingly very simple matter of reuniting a man and a woman into a single whole comes from and where it is moving.

Any nation traces its history back to patriarchal times. Of course, everything was different for everyone. However, without risking a mistake, we can say that all nations have similar basic principles of family organization. The main thing was the division of labor into male and female. This is very beneficial in difficult times: one is completely responsible for the kitchen, raising children, clothing, the other is responsible for getting money or food, protects the family (community, state) from enemies, does hard but necessary work...

Is it worth explaining that the flip side of patriarchal marriage and patriarchal existence was the enslavement of women, their exclusion from most social processes.

Subsequently, with an increase in overall life expectancy, with an increase in the education and cultural level of the population as a whole, the position of women slowly but surely began to change. The political and economic rationale for both division of labor and large families, two cornerstones of patriarchal marriage, has disappeared.

The moment when women entered the service en masse was revolutionary. The illusion that has now arisen that women will again be able to be driven into domestic reservations is deeply erroneous and naive. It is impossible to return to patriarchal marriage. The stereotype of patriarchal marriage is certainly falling apart and can only be preserved as a museum piece.

The destruction of the foundations of patriarchal marriage should be accompanied by the birth of the stereotype of equal marriage, but equal marriage itself is objectively weaker than patriarchal marriage, and it is impossible to establish it in one day throughout the country. As a result, we have what we have, namely a severe crisis in marriage. In this case, it is pointless to look for a way to return to the past; the point of return has been passed, we must move on. However, there is still a choice: either to get stuck, in the Western style, in the jungle of equal marriage, or, with your eyes closed, to break forward into the future, to the stereotypes of spiritual marriage, a very complex, ambiguous marriage, but much more durable than equal marriage.

You can talk as much as you like about Russia’s entry into the Western world, the world of capitalism, the world of legal states, but it is very difficult to reconcile Russian naturalness, spiritual breadth and faith in fate with the rigid and pragmatic rules of equal marriage.

Age-related spirituality

Turning to the age scale of ordinary human life, we must note that, no matter what kind of marriage a person is in, he, one way or another, goes through all the stages of marriage stereotypes. Until the age of 30, romantic illusions disappear; at the age of 40, there is no hope left that the wife will forever take care of the children, darning, washing, ironing, etc. After 40 years, the era of a showdown begins, when a man weakens and gives up positions one after another, and the woman, on the contrary, seems to spread her wings.

However, at 55 years old, with the onset of the age of the Dragon, a reverse transformation occurs, the will of a man is strengthened, the will of a woman is weakened, there is no longer talk of equality, competition, or struggle. There is, of course, no longer a return to the patriarchal order. But grown-up children, as a rule, end up in the patriarchal period, and already against the backdrop of their patriarchal marriage, raising growing grandchildren, spouses can establish relationships to which people who have lost faith in universal brotherhood, tired of struggle, weak in appearance, but exceptionally rich, gravitate internally. This is where we can talk about spiritual unity.

An amazing situation arises when the male sex, strong in mind but weak mentally, sharply weakens intellectually, but strengthens spiritually. A woman, on the contrary, sharply improves mentally, significantly maintaining the broad credit of her soul. It is during this period that the initially unusually different man and woman are most ready to unite into one being. And who knows, maybe this is precisely the great meaning of evolution.

Age-related mutual penetration is, of course, based on a thorough study of each other’s characteristics. The basis for this is the minutes, hours, days, years spent together. The more memories, the better. However, it is even more important that mutual interest in each other does not disappear, and interest, as we know, is based on some mystery, some mutual incomprehensibility. So, hoping for a long life together, do not rush to reveal all the secrets.

Spirituality Horoscope

From what has been said above, it clearly follows that spiritual marriage should be the most complex, the most difficult to establish. It is not surprising that the signs of the spouses are as far apart as possible. They have no equality in anything - neither in the sign of their way of life, nor in the sign of thinking. That is, of the four possible options for marriage, the spiritual one turned out to be the one in which the road to each other is as far away as possible, as confusing and unobvious as possible.

If spouses get into a spiritual marriage young, then they will have to go through many large and small crises and disagreements, and maybe even through divorce. However, if you succeed in crises, overcoming your own “I”, each time reaching a new level of communication, as if moving in a spiral and rising higher, then gradually the spiritual marriage will strengthen, deepen and ultimately become the best of all possible marriages. In such a marriage there will no longer be separate personalities or separate horoscopes; even souls will merge into one. That's how high the stakes are in a spiritual marriage.

Of course, all these transformations are not possible for all people, but only for a few, chosen, spiritually rich, as they say, spiritualized. We are not talking only about the elite, about bohemians; both the peasant and the worker can be spiritual. And yet, in order to understand the greatness of marriage, we turn to great examples, to those marriages that show us the way to the future.

So, Rostropovich - Vishnevskaya (Cat - Tiger), Alexandrov - Orlova (Cat - Tiger), Menshov - Alentova (Cat - Horse), Shchedrin - Plisetskaya (Monkey - Bull), Fellini - Mazina (Monkey - Rooster), Pyryev - Ladynina (Bull - Monkey), Aragon - Triolet (Rooster - Monkey), Roerich - Roerich (Dog - Cat), Gerasimov - Makarova (Horse - Goat), Panfilov - Churikova (Dog - Goat).

What awaits us in the future

So, skipping over the overly Western rules of equal marriage, Russia rushes into the expanses of that very spirituality that everyone and everyone is talking about so much. There is no point in fighting this, but you need to prepare.

One of the conditions must be education, preferably higher education. For a national stereotype to be born, the number of certified specialists must exceed the number of uneducated people. It is necessary that the thirst for creativity gradually supplants the concept of official duty, career, etc. Everything related to service is more likely to correspond to an equal marriage. It is necessary that people believe in a long life and a vigorous old age and not force events too much in their youth (including marriage, career, having children).

The birth and upbringing of children from the sphere of chance and gravity must move into the sphere of strict calculation and scientific consistency. Thus, simply motherhood, as an almost natural phenomenon, will gradually degenerate into creative, scientific motherhood, which, on the one hand, will strengthen the spiritual (creative) marriage, and on the other hand, will give rise to a generation of people in whom the spiritual sphere will prevail both over the physical, and above the purely intellectual.

A lot needs to happen in the human environment. The general tension emanating from the dominance of political themes contributes to the prevalence of equal marriage. A sharp decrease in interest in politics, a decrease in the prestige of business and recognition of the value of creativity (scientific, artistic, simply a creative attitude to any business) will immediately raise the importance of the family, the importance of marriage, and spiritual marriage at that.

It is extremely important that in the future the influence of women in global decision-making will increase, and women’s authority in general will increase, because only female influence can defeat global masculinity, tame male violence and encourage men to use their brains more and rattle their weapons less, more could have created and done less.

Love, which psychologists have until now considered a destructive factor for the strength of marriage (vector or romantic union), will become inevitably necessary in a spiritual marriage. However, in this love there will be much less passion, less struggle of the sexes, less blindness and anger.

Speaking about the legal aspects of marriage in the future, it is worth hoping that from the area of property agreements and disagreements, marriage will move into the area of creative disputes and issues of co-authorship.

Four spiritual marriages

The first, in which a woman's controlled will, her romantic love and a powerful source of controlled male love collide. We are talking about women born in the years of the Rooster, Bull and Snake, and men - Rats, Monkeys and Dragons. Minus vector marriages, that's eight couples. This union is facilitated by mutual, opposing energy power - two sources of love, two sources of will. In this case, there is a chance to achieve mutual penetration faster. However, there is also a danger here: too rapid a rapprochement may not happen so accurately. The powerful woman in this marriage comprehends love that is incomprehensible to her, the mystical husband loses his unnecessary madness and becomes more adequate to life.
The second version of spiritual marriage brings together a strong-willed husband and a mystical woman, independent of men. In this case we are talking about men from the troika Horse - Tiger - Dog and women from the troika Cat - Goat - Boar. Excluding vector marriages, these are seven options. The husband's enthusiasm in such a marriage is slightly higher than that of the wife, but this does not change the main thing: both spouses should experience deep curiosity about each other. It is mutual interest that is the basis of a spiritual marriage; this marriage cannot be built on boredom. It is not difficult to guess that the husband will become more mystical, and the wife, on the contrary, will move closer to the realities of life.
The third type of spiritual marriage is a fighting husband and a realistic wife. This is already a cold version of marriage. It includes men of the Ox, Rooster and Snake signs and women of the Rat, Monkey, Dragon signs (8 options). The mutual distance of the spouses makes marriage extremely difficult in the initial stage; attraction is too poorly supported energetically. But, as they say, every cloud has a silver lining - alienation helps spouses get closer together carefully, get used to each other at the most subtle level, without injury. Marriage is much more emotional than the two previous options; the signs come closer together on a different plane. The husband's logic becomes softer, losing primitivism, the wife's realism gradually rises from primitive commercialism and selfishness.
The fourth type of spiritual relationship brings together a realistic man and a combative, quick-thinking woman of the logical element. The husband is from the troika Cat - Goat - Boar, the wife is from the troika Horse - Dog - Tiger.

The husband's balance is mixed with the wife's activity, her eternal restlessness. However, outward composure does not prevent the husband from living in a wide range of emotions. A long spiritual marriage will give his feelings meaning. The wife gradually adds life experience, or what is called common sense, intuition, to her internal struggle of ideas. If these changes in thinking bring joy to the spouses, then the marriage can be considered successful.

Marriage Horse - Cat

Two open signs. Openness can prevent withdrawal from public affairs. Otherwise, the signs are quite different, which is not so bad for a spiritual marriage.

Marriage Horse - Goat

Marriage Horse - Boar

Alas, this marriage strives for spirituality, but does not achieve it, because the laws of the vector ring seize power.

Marriage Dog - Cat

A fairly common case. Spirituality is born against the background of general melancholy. Maybe living together will help overcome sadness. On the other hand, melancholy gives rise to critical thinking, and two skeptics always have something to talk about.

Marriage Dog - Goat

Again, quite weak energy, and with it the fear of loneliness, which gives rise to a craving for spiritual marriage. Mutual orthodoxy is not an obstacle to spiritual quests, although it is not a very powerful reason.

Marriage Dog - Boar

Quite a rare case. Apparently, Pig is too confident in himself, too independent and cheerful for a spiritual marriage. Thus, for spiritual rapprochement, some special reasons are needed, which, however, life always provides in abundance.

Marriage Tiger - Cat

This option, on the contrary, is very common. Maybe the mutual soaringness (dreaming) helps, as well as the Cat’s closeness to the tiger’s cosmic optimism. Or maybe the whole point is that on the age scale these signs correspond to maximum spirituality.

Marriage Ox - Rat

General psychology is the basis, a springboard for a spiritual assault, otherwise there are no special contradictions. Energetically, the union is very beneficial. The Ox dumps excess energy, and the Rat always has an energy source nearby.

Marriage Ox - Dragon

Two orthodox signs. Both of them are used to playing by the rules. But are there rules in spiritual rapprochement? In addition, energetically the signs are completely self-sufficient. Perhaps it is these reasons that make this variant of spiritual marriage quite rare.

Marriage Ox - Monkey

There is not much in common, but there are also no special contraindications. If you have a craving for spirituality, then why not try it? It is more difficult to tune into the spirituality of the Ox.

Marriage Snake - Rat

Two choleric people. But let's not forget that this outwardly active temperament is endowed with a minimum of energy. Life will tell whether energy poverty will help the signs merge into a single whole or drag the spouses into an energy abyss. In any case, you need to save energy from time to time.

Marriage Snake - Dragon

The prevalence of the union is explained by the maturity and richness of the signs, which, in turn, is explained by the location of the signs at the far end of the age scale. Otherwise, paradoxically, the signs have nothing in common.

Marriage Snake - Monkey

The closedness of the signs cannot close the boundless power in this marriage of the laws of the vector ring.

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