A bad streak in life, what to do when everything is bad. What to do when there are a lot of problems - practical advice

What to do when it “seems” that your whole life is “collapsing”

Below are three letters - one addressed to me (with the permission of the author and with minor changes) and two simply found on the Internet as living examples, you will definitely see analogies and even similar phrases, plus the identity of the problem. And when there is a problem, you need to SEEK ITS SOLUTION.

"What's happening, everything is collapsing

It's crumbling before our eyes whole life, many years of struggle for the child’s health, my husband lost his job, I had to move, I’m losing dear people..., and it seems that all this seems to be planned and implemented.. everything is so difficult.. I feel broken. Through my life at least make a movie. Tell me what astrology thinks about this...and WHERE?? FIND these forces- about which you write... I will try... Very much...”

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Hello, I am 22 years old, I am married, I have a beautiful daughter. It all started from the moment I became pregnant. My husband and I had just gotten married. everything was fine, but one day came a crisis, My husband was fired from his job. I worked as long as I could, then I went on maternity leave. She gave birth to a child, and then constant moving began. there were 5 of them over the last year. My husband seemed to be working, but somehow everything didn’t work out and he decided to take up entrepreneurial activity. At first everything seemed to work out, but then everything got worse...then... Anka owes money a large sum , now they are suing. Not long ago I found out that I was pregnant again. Of course, I understood that it was not on time, but I was still very happy. my husband was not so positive. then the bleeding started. I called an ambulance, the hospital said that the child had been dead for a long time... it was not just a blow! They did the cleaning... Now a month has passed, I seem to have calmed down. but with money everything is bad . and my husband decided to work part-time in a taxi today on the first day I lost all my documents and money…

I'm n I don’t know how to live further and what to do, this is the last straw, I d I can't even cry anymore, I sit and giggle stupidly. and the worst thing is that I’m afraid of the future, because it’s far from full list what happened to me over the past two years...

Help me please! How to find strength in yourself survive all this? how to start over

Thank you in advance…..

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what to do if life collapses?!

I’m losing all interest in life and the fight for a brighter future, I’ve just come to terms with the fact that I’m always alone (quite long period his life)...And in recent years in general everything went bad, now I’m unemployed, I owe the bank a large amount, crashed my car today….

I'm just tired already I'm tired of life, I can't even cry, because I’m tired...tired of these problems....the only thing that I think keeps me in this world is that I love my parents.. But for some reason it seems to me that this will soon not be a hindrance for me, I can’t do this next...tell me what should I do?

EVERYONE HAS THEIR OWN SANTA BARBARA

In all three of these messages we see that problems roll in like a snowball and at some point some unpleasant event occurs (note - non-fatal!) and the person “breaks down”, that is, he reaches the limit of patience and catharsis occurs. Or the peak of the development cycle of his crisis situation.

Firstly, a person is deep inside a situation that seems to him to be a dead end. Looking from the outside, it doesn't seem so to us. It’s not without reason that they say that you need to “rise above” in order to see the whole picture or from a wider perspective. After all, everything is not so bad.

For example, we often compare ourselves with others - especially when they have something better or have something that we don’t have, and this plunges us into negative feelings of self-pity, envy, sadness, etc.

In this situation of “total collapse”, as advice, you can also suggest comparing your misfortunes with the misfortunes of others in order to feel better.

For example, some women do not have husbands and have to take care of themselves and their children, earn money, solve problems, make decisions, etc.

Some people don’t have a car and have to travel by public transport. Some people don’t have the money to afford to go abroad or just to the sea, etc. Someone does not have health, body parts, vision and hearing, parents, children, housing, etc.

Look at Nick Vujicic– if it seems to you that everything is “bad” for you or that you have been deprived of something. He has neither arms nor legs, but he was able to cope with despondency and despair and even became rich, married a young beauty who bore him a child. He is a living motivation “not to be a victim.”

Are you still feeling bad? And do you feel left out?

Sometimes it seems to us that our life is like “Santa Barbara”, with many difficult moments, the first heroine even wrote that a film could be made based on her life, but look around - look at the lives of the people around you, delve into their stories. Each is its own movie, its own unique script, its own series and its own setbacks and failures. Well, who among us hasn’t lost a job? Hands up. Who among us has not been abandoned by a loved one? Any hands up? Who hasn't experienced financial difficulties, major losses, disasters, injuries and accidents? I think that all readers of this article are already sitting with their hands raised. Write if this is not the case.

I myself thought for a long time that the sphere of my personal relationships was completely Santa Barbara and that there was no more unhappy girl in the world, and then I saw that with others it happens not so, much more dramatic and complex.

Conclusion: your life is the same as hundreds and thousands of others, in some ways better, in some ways worse, and YOU ALWAYS HAVE SOMETHING TO BE THANKFUL FOR.

Advice: try to help yourself get out of the victim state in which you are now to the state of the creator of your life or someone who is able to get out of this dead end, by changing your attitude to what is happening and changing the perspective of attention from focusing on “everything is bad” to focusing on that - A what do you want instead and how to achieve it.

In no way do I want to encourage you to ignore the problem, I ask you reset its importance, refocus. And this is the first step towards solving it.

They say that God does not give trials beyond our strength - we are able to get out of them. difficult situations, the main thing is to concentrate and get ready. There are many examples when people came out of the most unimaginable situations, help came at the very last moment and in the most miraculous way. But you need to ask about it - God, the Highest.

In moments of despair, go to Him and pray for help, give your situation to Him for consideration. Say what you want, thank him and promise to accept everything as His will, humbly. And no matter what happens next, just live it, accepting it. You cannot sew a severed leg back, so sometimes you need to learn to walk on a prosthesis and live in new conditions. Some even manage to become Olympic champions in this condition. We always have a choice - to lie down and “die”, to give up and despair, to fight and win.

Sometimes it seems to us that life is over and there is no point in living further, hope is dying, but in reality it is not the end of life, it is the end of one of its chapters and then a new chapter opens. Let there be something different in it, but this is life, a different plot, a different script, and we have everything to write the best script in this chapter.

CLASSICS OF THE GENRE

Events that are generally considered the most negative are classics of the genre - divorce, loss of work and livelihood, loss of valuables, death of loved ones, health problems, injuries and accidents.

Any person experiences crisis, stress, depression and other negative feelings at this time, but you can react to them in different ways, for some it will be the “end of life”, and for others the “beginning of a new one”. From the success stories of the famous, rich and successful people, we can find out that they also had to go through such “bifurcation points” (the moment of no return), that is, difficult moments when everything collapsed for them, losses occurred, and other crises, but precisely from which the starting point of their future success began.

One of the major information businessmen said that his beloved girlfriend left him, after which he finally got up from the couch and created his own business. Now he is rich and another girl has been found whom he happily married. Another famous blogger and trainer shared the story that a large car accident forced her to radically change her life, quit a prestigious job, leave a foreign country, think about the future, return to the country and create her own online training business. And there are millions of such stories. Because that's how the Universe works. We develop through crises.

How else can we be woken up or pulled out of our usual routine, how can we be encouraged to evolve and develop? The Universe knocks on windows and doors, and if we don’t hear, then on our heads... so that we finally do something in our lives; or simply changed something, perhaps long desired, but ignored; or simply followed their Path, from which they deviated, etc.

Metaphorically, a comparison can be made - when a mother calls her child, but he does not hear or ignores the call, then the parent screams louder or even comes up and uses brute force in order to attract attention, so Our Heavenly Father calls, shouts and sometimes does what -to draw our attention to ourselves.

And yes, crisis situations are a close path to God, because many of us remember His existence only in difficult moments. And this is a great chance to turn to Him.

Conclusion: Crisis situations draw your attention to Self, Truth and the Highest. Perhaps the time has come for changes in your life and you should not resist them. Perhaps it's time to take your Power. Perhaps this is a test of strength (more about this below in the Astrological interpretation of events).

Advice: try to change your attitude towards what is happening, reorient yourself from the end to a new beginning, be flexible and do not fall into despair - there is a way out of ANY SITUATION, even yours.

Well, judge for yourself - you lost your job, you will definitely find another one, you just need to make an effort and search hard. If you have suffered material damage, say “thank you, Lord, for taking me with money.” Your lover has left you, learn to live in love with yourself and life.

Does it feel like the world is collapsing? This is wrong! He's just rebuilding. And perhaps for you!

Each planet has its own cycle, for example, the cycle of the Moon, which reflects the structure of life processes - everything has birth, development, culmination and decline/death/end. At the moment when several negative stories coincide in life at once (there are positive ones too, but we rarely note this as something significant), the climax, the full moon of life, comes. After some time there will be a decline.

On full moons, you usually need to part with something that has become obsolete; these are times of heightened emotionality and difficulties in controlling it. A little later, you will look at what happened with much less tragic .

At these moments you need allow yourself to feel your emotions.

Saturn has - long cycles, full is about 29-30 years old and intermediate seven years old. Saturn is considered a harsh planet, and I often associate it with Morozko from the fairy tale of the same name, when he tested the strength of the main characters by asking them “if they were warm” and then gave them gifts according to their test scores. Likewise, life (Saturn) tests how humble, strong, wise, and ready to take responsibility for one’s life and become its Authors.

Here is the woman who wrote the first letter, just going through Second Saturn Return(occurs around age 59-60). This is the time of another restructuring of life, challenges of fate, tests and great opportunities with the task of determining long-term goals for its further development. We perceive this time as a time of crises, we can be sad and despair, but Saturn is a strict and fair Teacher, he will bestow us in the future, but after a difficult period of change and restructuring.

Saturn asks us to engage in soul-searching and self-knowledge, to go through the process of re-inventorying ourselves and our ways of life. We may encounter something that is not working in our life, limitations and obstacles, see gaps, weak spots. Saturn slows us down so that we can look with a firm and cold gaze at the reality we have built in our lives and find new ways and means to become a true author - an authority - in our lives. We have another chance to be the one who we really are.

In mythology, Saturn is associated with the harvest, with rewards for efforts made. If we are willing to wait, work, persevere. Saturn is a strict Teacher and he asks us to clear away our psychological and physical garbage and dig up the soil (our psyche) before we plant new seeds (new intentions/new life). During the Return we have the chance for real change and life-renewing rewards. This is truly a planet of opportunity.

During the Second Return, the wisdom of the Elder comes. Our personal and public safety is being reconsidered. This difficult time and harvest time, results of work over the past years.

We ask a lot of questions at this time. We cannot repeat past mistakes. We are taking the first steps towards new beginnings.

Saturn often asks, “Whose movie am I in?” and challenges being a director and screenwriter. It would be too easy to read the lines of a well-known script. Instead, we must become Self-Authors and become the true Authors of our lives.

We need to rewrite the script of our lives. It's not always easy, our lives are full of people and situations that no longer reflect who we are. The human unconscious often creates situations that challenge us. It is as if it is hiring other people to play certain roles in our life story - this one will be the boss, this one will be the victim, and this one will be the unfaithful lover. Saturnian post-checks in life are associated with moments when these people play their roles and the time comes to adjust their life script. We must take back our projections and look at the drama of our lives as OUR responsibility. And don't blame anyone.

During the Second Return, Saturn calls for concrete action in real world, but this is all very subtle. If we don't do what we need to do, we may never get a second chance. If you put off checking your health, it may be too late. If you don't admit to yourself that “my job is killing me, but I need to wait until I retire,” it may actually kill you.

As the body ages, fatigue and depression increase, the body is no longer an object of pride and then the Spirit has a chance to come forward. Some old habits may show their heads and need to be cut off. You may be asking yourself, “why do I have to deal with this issue again?” and the answer will be “because you’ve almost solved it.” Now you look at things more wisely and maturely. With the gift of wisdom, you complete unfinished tasks and situations.

At this time, you need to clean the very foundations - the basements of your existence and look at your de-idealizations, let the illusions go away. Now is the time to slow down and allow nice things to come into your life.

We can return to what gives the fruits of our experience - a certain project, something that we can do well and even better.

When everything in life seems to be falling apart...
start thinking about what you will build in the vacant space. Osho

And here are the tools to help you pass the Saturnian checks:

1 Be discerning(discern (English) – to distinguish, recognize)

Since I am wiser today than I was a year ago and know much more, I can wisely use choices based on clarity of intentions. Dream of a future with a clearly visible path between the trees. “Know yourself” and “Nothing superfluous” - the inscriptions from the Delphic Temple are clearly for me. Now I need to step back from the excesses of youth and clearly understand what I can and cannot do.

2 Be cordial

Have the courage to ask for advice knowledgeable people. And in myself: how much I project my insecurities and fears into the surrounding reality, making my life miserable, unable to take responsibility and cordially perceive those around me.

3 Go deeper

“All or nothing” is a rather superficial quick fix, but Saturn doesn’t like quick fixes. No quick decisions or things done in a hurry! It is better to withstand the tension of dividing contradictions and internal conflicts until a new form of the idea emerges. And only then is it time to get out of your usual comfort zone and do it! “Dig deep - you will find precious water at the very bottom!”

4 Take action!

In the end, Saturn rewards those who do and depresses those who postpone from day to day.

It’s ironic - but while we are waiting (for the warmth and good weather of spring - by the sea of ​​​​good weather :)) Saturn is testing us for the strength of our faith - rebirth and rebirth. We are like seeds on a windowsill, waiting for seedlings and watering. And in due time we must act, dig deep, separate the weeds from the emerging flowers...

...everything comes in due time..

We went into great detail on the Saturn Return cycle (especially for my reader who asked the question), but there are also many other cycles - for example, the Uranus opposition and the Neptune square at the age of about 40-42 years old called the Midlife Crisis, the Jupiter Return - occurs every 12 years old and also marks the beginning and end of certain milestones in life, an upgrade in life style. Personal cycles can be learned through consultations with astrologers, and everyone has their own working astro influences in difficult moments of life.

Conclusion: The events taking place are influenced by planetary, cosmic and other cycles.

Advice: if you need support in times of crisis, contact professional therapists (psychologists, astrologers, etc.) and support groups, ask for help from friends and family. They will definitely help you regain your lost hope.

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Don't forget that life is not one day. If it didn’t work out today, everything will be different tomorrow. Friends forgot to call - there will be time and you won’t call. All the clouds that are gathering over our heads are all temporary. Difficulties must be overcome.

“It happens that no matter where you look, everything is bad. I give up, I don’t want to do anything, my soul is sad and, as luck would have it, my friends don’t call, I’m a mess at work, and on TV it’s a complete nightmare, the photos taken by my beloved Sony DSC-TX55 disappeared without a trace on my PC.” - writes the website growth.in.ua. And what to do when everything is bad? How to get out of this state when do you feel bad? What to do?

We offer you a number of tips and hope you find the answer for yourself, what to do when everything is bad.

1. Think only about good things

Remember, absolutely everyone can change their life. All you need is desire. And you need to start changing your whole life with your own thoughts. If you constantly think about only bad things, they will come to you. You have heard the phrase many times that thoughts are material. What does this phrase mean?

2. Speak only about good things

It is not enough to just think about the good, because the word is also material, so you need to talk about the good. With friends, at home, at work, say that life is getting better, everything is just fine. If your acquaintances begin to discuss the topic in front of you: “where is this world heading,” do not support this discussion. After all, you know that everything will be fine, life gets better every day.

3. Don't drink

Don't try to drown all your problems with alcohol. They will only increase. In addition, you will lose your health and a lot of money. The same goes for smoking. This is a direct path to permanent illness.

4. Play sports

We can advise you to go in for sports: it gives positive emotions and health. It is not necessary to achieve records, just a regular jog, swimming pool, morning exercises. It not only invigorates the body, but also strengthens the spirit. After this, you will not want to think about the bad, decide how to overcome depression.

5. Love

Love always changes life for the better. She brings a sea of ​​positivity and happiness into our lives. This bright feeling turns our lives upside down, inspires us to achieve feats and achieve success. How can there be depression if you love and are loved?

6. Give free rein to your emotions

It’s not true that you can’t help your grief with tears. Sometimes it is enough to cry when your soul is bad to see life in a new light, to understand that it is not over yet, that there are other interests in life.

Try to look at your situation impartially. Is she really that sad? Look around how many people around you have it much worse. But they continue to live, rejoice, and fight.

8. Communicate

When everything is really bad, you really want to withdraw into yourself, not see anyone, not communicate with anyone. This is the wrong way. On the contrary, be among people who can listen to you and ease your suffering.

9. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, start taking action.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself: many people have it worse than you. Take action. This is the only way to change the situation. Or start a new life.

10. Ask loved ones for help

Don't hesitate to ask family or friends for help. For any person, timely support can be very important. It will help solve a lot of life problems and find a way out of any situation, especially when I feel bad (What should I do?).

When failure haunts a person, the question arises: what to do when everything is bad in life? Practical psychologists A special algorithm of actions has been developed that will change the situation in better side. But in order to achieve changes you will have to work on yourself.

Stage 1: Getting rid of negativity in conversation

Many people have gotten into the habit of complaining about fate and arousing pity for themselves. We must fight this by driving away negative words, thoughts and emotions by willpower. You need to force yourself to stop complaining about life and not show negative emotions, if you can’t force yourself, you can use some kind of exercise, for example, come up with a reminder in the form of a colored thread, tying it around your wrist, that you should avoid negative conversations for a certain time.

This reminder is very useful because, willy-nilly, you will have to think about your problems, look for the cause of their occurrence and the opportunity to get rid of them. After such exercises you will not want to talk and complain about hard life, even with others when they complain. Here you need to learn to turn everything into a joke or change the topic of conversation.

The negative conversation has been dealt with, but emotions and internal experiences that poison life remain.

Stage 2: Getting rid of negative emotions

It is difficult to control your emotions. They arise spontaneously, making a person angry and irritable. But, if you look at it, emotions do not appear on their own - they arise on the basis of a person’s thoughts. So you need to analyze your thoughts.

Before you think about your thoughts, you need to convince yourself of the following:

• worries about what to do when everything is bad in life do not change anything, but only spoil life, the problem remains;
• most difficulties are mere trifles and not worth attention;
• learn to face reality and not run away from the answer.

All problems are divided into two camps:

• those that depend on the person himself - they must be resolved immediately, and not deal with empty worries;
• those that do not depend on a person - they must be accepted as is, understanding that a person is not able to influence them.

And you need to determine for yourself the boundaries of your experiences. A person often confuses these facets and spoils relationships with others. This is especially true for children and spouses. But this does not exclude caring for some person.

Stage 3: Caring for others

You need to take care of your neighbor not in words, but out of love. Often, grumbling, reproaches, and worry are called caring. This kind of concern is suspicious. Some people are probably satisfied with the state of worry so as not to do anything, to think about anything but solving their problems. This begs the question: is there a way out of this situation?

Instead of problems - new things!

Instead of needlessly worrying about any troubles, you need to look for an opportunity to correct the problem that has arisen. This does not mean that you have to find everything good moments, as some teach. It's not productive. You must be able to find a way out of any situation that arises. To do this, you need to focus on actions and your own development, and not on passively waiting for help from someone.

Ecology of life. Psychology: My head became heavy, my thoughts hung in gray wool, a lump rolled up in my throat, tears froze in my eyes. There is no strength to speak or cry. I don’t have the strength to ask for help or call someone. This is the state - “totally bad.”

My head became heavy, my thoughts hung in gray wool, a lump rolled up in my throat, tears froze in my eyes. There is no strength to speak or cry. I don’t have the strength to ask for help or call someone.

This is the state - “totally bad.”

- What do you want now?
- I do not want anything. I want everyone to leave me alone. It would be better if I never existed at all. To avoid this starting point of the report...
– This is global. What do you want very little for yourself now?
- ..... so that there is no noise around, ... so that everything calms down, and I am left completely alone ...
- What can you do for yourself now?

Finding an answer to the question “What can I do for myself now?” launches a program to overcome depression, despair and exhaustion.

I am not anyone else. Mobilization of one's own forces, search for a resource.

I can - I definitely can. Finding a solution and selecting an action within your capabilities.

Do it – don’t just think about it, but do it. Movement towards specific actions and changes in the situation.

Now - at this moment, not sometime in the future, but already now. Making a decision and taking immediate action.

This action is usually very small, takes the person out from under the hood, and triggers the self-rescue mechanism.

What is the smallest thing I want for myself and what can I do for myself right now?
“I don’t want to see these walls, so that no one bothers me.”

I can leave here immediately by turning off my phone.
-I want it to be quiet and I was alone.

I can ask everyone to gather their remaining strength to get out of here and leave me alone for two hours.

As soon as an action occurs that responds to an urgent need, that’s it, the mechanism is launched.

At this exit stage, you should not try to analyze the situation. This is a pointless waste of resource. You now do not have the opportunity to objectively and adequately perceive what is coming.

While you are inside the problem, you will not be able to look at it from the outside.

Try to “turn off your head.” Throw out any thoughts that come, and try to remain in complete emptiness.

Mastering the technique of “thinking nothing,” the ability to stop the flow of your own thoughts, is not easy, but it is possible.

It will allow you to take a break from exhausting “crisis decisions” and searching for those to blame.

Be in this state at this stage for as long as you need to regain your strength and start breathing.

The first opportunity to analyze will come the next day. Even then, don't try to make long-term decisions.

You will be able to understand what really happened and how to do it differently next time no earlier than in a few days, and the more time passes, the more objective your view will be. “Big things are seen from a distance.”

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Therefore, you shouldn’t make furious decisions “under the hood”: “That’s it! I’m getting a divorce!” or write resignation letters. Perhaps it’s worth hanging up and you’ve grown out of this work a long time ago, but this can only be done with a “fresh head.” And it’s better to leave not “from”, but “to”.

When you jump with a parachute, the main thing is not to forget to pull the ring in time.
Remember, maybe someday this will save your life. published

Before reading this text, I must warn you: deterioration in life does not occur overnight, they are the result of gradual and sometimes imperceptible processes for the brain deceived by illusions. It doesn't happen that way! and everything in life became dramatically worse. A person himself prepares the ground for this - he strengthens inadequate realities and unviable attitudes with faith, makes strategically erroneous decisions, ignores facts, etc. and so on.

To begin with, you should understand and accept as an axiom one simple thing, which is that There are no unsolvable problems, there are unpleasant solutions. It is difficult to accept it, because in the minds of many people, a woman’s attitude toward the perception of reality, “what is true is pleasant,” “I close my eyes and all the bad things will disappear,” dominates in the minds of many people. It is with its elimination and eradication that the process of getting out of the ass into which a person has driven himself begins (a special module in ).

Next step– this is a sober look at reality. You cannot correct a situation / solve a problem without recognizing the facts. This is usually made difficult by the fact that the individual is accustomed to lying to himself. Freud also proved that most of our words and thoughts serve to hide the truth. First of all, from ourselves. It’s difficult to figure out your own lies and false interpretation of facts on your own, so smart people turn to those who know how to separate reality from bullshit for help.

In fact, after this step, we can consider that half the path has already been completed. Because an honest and conscious look at reality automatically puts everything in its place and a large (if not most) part of the problems falls off by itself. By the way, Allen Carr’s methods for overcoming drug addiction("most easy way quit smoking” and others).

Third step is decision making. It seems like a simple action, but it stalls in the swamp of childish infantilism generated by a woman’s upbringing. The average representative of society does not have the desire and ability to live independently, that is, to live freely - he is accustomed to others deciding everything for him: first his parents, then the school and college, then the authorities with the government and money, which the moneyphile-bred man in the street perceives as “universal.” problem solver,” they say, I’ll take it where it needs to be, I’ll pay and there’s no need to strain myself.

And this is where the mistake comes in, because the active, that is, subjective life position ALWAYS involves the application of effort, and any effort requires a certain amount of tension. Otherwise, it turns out, as in that vulgar joke: “And what did you understand, Vovochka? “Don’t relax, otherwise you’ll get busted!” True, you also need to strain yourself mentally, and not like the horse Boxer from Animal Farm, who, in the situation of the onset of another ass, constantly said the same thing: “I will work even harder.” As you know, the horse ended badly - he was sent to a slaughterhouse and soap factory. Yes, you have to work not 18 hours, but with your head.

The degree of tension, by the way, directly depends on the steepness of the solution. You won’t have to work hard to fix or even slightly tint a leaky fence, but the result won’t be particularly beautiful and won’t be very durable. But for little man with small goals it is generally quite acceptable. To completely reconstruct a dilapidated house (if everything is really bad in life), all forces and resources must be concentrated into a fist. Well, of course, you need to know WHAT EXACTLY do. Because, as the classic bequeathed, “a specific analysis of a specific situation is the very essence, the living soul of Marxism.”

Actually, the development and assistance in the implementation of a detailed strategy for overcoming the crisis is the subject. Since this requires operations that are very problematic to do alone - take an honest look at yourself and your life from the outside, clarify your true goals and desires (understand your real, not fictitious purpose/vocation) and discard false ones, subject to critical analysis and revision of beliefs and the attitudes that previously guided me in life and which ultimately led to my ass (after all, our fate is neither more nor less, but the deployment over time of our unconscious attitudes and “game packages”). Well, and various other important things.

“Deceive the Emperor and cross the sea”

Another dissatisfied reader will grumpily say: so, they say, everything is bad, there is no health, life is not going well, debts, loans, no home, no work, in general, I don’t want to live, and then I have to spend a lot of money on the help of a trainer-consultant. I would like some free, effective advice.

But, unfortunately, there is no such thing as free and effective advice. For everything in life you have to pay. And often not with money (a virtual and renewable resource), but with much more expensive resources - time, energy, health...

There is this thing that I called "theory last money» and which has numerous confirmations in world practice (for example, the biography of the former poor man Peter Daniels or Edison Miranda, a homeless man who became a famous boxer). Its essence is to put yourself in a hopeless situation when “it’s either hit or miss.”

The fact is that any person always has money, even if he thinks that he doesn’t have it (here, as a rule, we are dealing with a perverted form of lying to oneself). The question is priorities. If survival is a priority, then all the money is spent on it. And a person will do only one thing all his life - survive. If the priority is a leap forward and development, then all his actions will be subordinated to these goals. Therefore, when a person invests all his money in himself, then he has no other acceptable options except to win.